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Leafs 4TW!! - CPA
Dec 2002
time: 00:29
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Sava,
The biggest problem with men is that they treat women as if they were extraterrestrials.
Witness the paranoia re: "I don't want to make her think I want to sleep with her".
Jesus Christ! The whole point of dating services is to find someone who will sleep with you - that's why women use them.
She knows what you're thinking. That is why she will try to make herself seem attractive.
Of course, most women don't want some pervert who is just interested in sex (damn!), but they are themselves looking for a bedmate so don't go acting like it's just you who is tormented by lust.
Don't go out of your way trying to impress her. This makes you look desperate, which is a major turn-off that women can spot that a mile away.
Generally any form of psychological manipulation you try is going to fail. Women are just better at men at that game, both in doing it and spotting it when it is done to them. A man trying to beat a woman at this game is in no better position than a man trying to beat a woman at a "get pregnant" contest.
In fact the best thing you can do is listen to her and ask questions. The number one thing that women get pissed off about is men not listening to them.
Try to steer questions she asks about you back into things she can talk about regarding herself (don't be too obvious about this). Ask real questions, and if you ask a dumb question by accident say "sorry, that was a dumb question." Make her explain stuff more clearly if you don't get it. If she's boring, then it obviously isn't going to work between you. If she tells you about her problems, resist the male temptation to propose solutions, just sympathize with her and tell her about similar problems you have had. Telling a woman the solutions to her problems just makes it look to her as if you think she's too stupid to have thought of them, and that you enjoy organizing other people's lives.
Don't stare at her breasts. But don't not look at them either. If you stare, you'll look like a weirdo, but if you purposely try not to look, she'll notice and wonder what's wrong with you. Men cannot help but look at women's breasts. Women know this.
Similarly, women can't help but look at guys' butts. The problem is that evolution/God has made men losers at this again. It's easy to check out someone's butt without them seeing, but the placement of boobs makes it next to impossible for the poor guy.
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Guardian
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Bergen, Norway
Feb 2001
time: 06:29
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My wife and I met over the internet. That was back in 1995 - 96. At that time, it was still considered a kind of weird way to get a date. She's from Michigan, USA and I'm from Bergen, Norway. She was in the States and I was over here. For months, we just talked on the net and on the phone and sent letters and e-mails back and forth. Then I went over to meet her in the summer of 1996. People thought I was kind of crazy to travel that far to spend the summer with someone I'd never met before. I guess maybe it was, but I did it anyway.   She brought a friend to the airport when she came to pick me up. Fair enough, I guess. Anyway, things worked fine for us and we've been married since the summer of '99.
I made some mistakes during the first couple of years of our long-distance relationship and we paid for it during the first year we lived together, as she inevitably discovered that I wasn't all the things she had come to expect. We lived through it, but the lesson is clear: Be honest! Always. Don't ever try to give the impression of being someone you're not, 'cause it will be discovered at some point, and trust me, it's not worth it! If there's something you're not proud of, the best thing you can do is to come clean right away and get to work on improving it.
Women will forgive you for not being perfect - if you're honest about it!
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JimmyCracksCorn
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Macedonia - Sovereign country north of Greece.
Dec 2002
time: 05:29
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quote:
Originally posted by Giancarlo
Why is that relevant? |
Because they met online.
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