08-01-2004 04:21									#61
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quote: Originally posted by Albert Speer it's like I'm a living legend...

I'd prefer you a dead one.

	08-01-2004 04:26									#62
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Mr Fun, excuse my abruptness, but it seems like the guy wanted... errr, we all know. Do you really find something wrong in that?

	08-01-2004 04:51									#63
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well i one-night-stand could turn in to something good...and well you are a guy so it is not like no i am saving myself for marriage nah anyway...good luck... people say a lot of stupid things to people they like...and maybe he just wanted to know if you two were going to date or be friends...

i love to go dating again...but 9 months to the day (today) i am stuck to my lovely girlfriend...

	08-01-2004 05:43									#64
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quote: Originally posted by Oncle Boris Mr Fun, excuse my abruptness, but it seems like the guy wanted... errr, we all know. Do you really find something wrong in that?

He and I are on similar levels, in that we don't want to fvck with someone for a night, and then be done with that person.

He and I seem to want to find someone we connect with, date, and establish a serious, meaningful relationship.

There's a lot of others who say one thing, and then they really want the sex. But I really don't see that being the case with him.

	08-01-2004 05:44									#65
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quote: Originally posted by DeathByTheSword well i one-night-stand could turn in to something good...and well you are a guy so it is not like no i am saving myself for marriage nah anyway...good luck... people say a lot of stupid things to people they like...and maybe he just wanted to know if you two were going to date or be friends... i love to go dating again...but 9 months to the day (today) i am stuck to my lovely girlfriend...

Well, I will report back here after I have dinner with Ken tomorrow. Yes, I'm having dinner with him -- not having him for dinner.

	08-01-2004 06:09									#66
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i don't get it, this makes no sense. YOU'RE BOTH MEN. HOW CAN YOU GO OUT ON A DATE?

	08-01-2004 06:58									#67
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Uber honey, it's way different in the gay world. Things move so much faster then they do in the strait one. Alot of gay men are used to the fast pace of the gay lifestyle, but it sounds to me like he isn't into the bar sceen and seems to have some grey matter between the ears and it isn't grey pupon!

Like I said yesterday he is probably kicking himself in the nads for even saying something like that and sweating it out until tomorrow night to see if he screwed a good thing up. Now the big question is did he call you or e-mail you today........that will tell me a few things I need to know.

	08-01-2004 09:00									#68
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quote: Originally posted by Uber KruX i don't get it, this makes no sense. YOU'RE BOTH MEN. HOW CAN YOU GO OUT ON A DATE?

What don't you get??

	08-01-2004 09:07									#69
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quote: Originally posted by Uber KruX i don't get it, this makes no sense. YOU'RE BOTH MEN. HOW CAN YOU GO OUT ON A DATE?

Man drives to man's house.
Man picks up man.
Man and man drive to restaurant.
Man and man go in restaurant, sit down and eat.
Man and man talk.
When finished eating, man and man leave restaurant
Man and man then maybe grab a drink, or go for a walk, or whatever.
Man drives man home.
Man says goodnight to man (or man invites man in for nightcap...?)
Man drives home

The end.

	08-01-2004 09:08									#70
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quote: Originally posted by Boris Godunov Man drives to man's house. Man picks up man. Man and man drive to restaurant. Man and man go in restaurant, sit down and eat. Man and man talk. When finished eating, man and man leave restaurant Man and man then maybe grab a drink, or go for a walk, or whatever. Man drives man home. Man says goodnight to man (or man invites man in for nightcap...?) Man drives home The end.

You mean Uber did not understand that gays often date very similarly to how heteros date?

	08-01-2004 09:58									#71
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quote: So how is the dating life going for some others here?

Do you really want to know?

	08-01-2004 10:01									#72
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quote: Originally posted by Ben Kenobi Do you really want to know?

It can't be that scary can it?

	08-01-2004 10:16									#73
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2 hr breakup conversations are not fun. I've not had awful day with horrible weather, losing my bus pass and 7hrs of classes on my brutal Wednesdays on top of everything else.

Don't know what I will do, what I should do. I have to see her tomorrow because of mutual obligations. Best I can hope for is for this to blow over, when she remembers all the good times we've had.

Seems she talked things over with her parents and her sister about how to best end things and still remain friends, all over the Christmas break. Must be something about January. It's the second time I've been dumped this month.

	08-01-2004 19:07									#74
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How long were you two together?

	09-01-2004 10:43									#75
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Well, Ken and I had dinner earlier this evening, then we went to his house (nice country home), and watched the movie, Dogma -- funny movie -- I liked it.

After the movie, I opened up the conversation about what I was thinking and feeling about him and I. Honest communication is hard, but I couldn't let him go too far out on the limb, so on this second time together, I told him my thoughts.

I basically told him that all I had for him were plutonic friendship feelings. Then he told me what his feelings/thoughts were, which was that he was hoping we would start dating, and establish some kind of relationship beyond friendship. So he said that he felt somewhat disappointed, but not really hurt.

I then told him that because he and I have several common areas in terms of interests, as well as life experiences, I want to see if we can be good plutonic friends. He said that would be real good -- of course, we'll see if we actually do become good friends.


I'm somewhat disappointed myself -- I want to find someone for something beyond plutonic friendship. Oh well, another time, with someone else, I suppose.

	09-01-2004 11:31									#76
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Oh, and Ben -- you can't just walk out of the interrogation room scot free.

	09-01-2004 11:48									#77
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quote: Originally posted by MrFun Well, Ken and I had dinner earlier this evening, then we went to his house (nice country home), and watched the movie, Dogma -- funny movie -- I liked it. After the movie, I opened up the conversation about what I was thinking and feeling about him and I. Honest communication is hard, but I couldn't let him go too far out on the limb, so on this second time together, I told him my thoughts. I basically told him that all I had for him were plutonic friendship feelings. Then he told me what his feelings/thoughts were, which was that he was hoping we would start dating, and establish some kind of relationship beyond friendship. So he said that he felt somewhat disappointed, but not really hurt. I then told him that because he and I have several common areas in terms of interests, as well as life experiences, I want to see if we can be good plutonic friends. He said that would be real good -- of course, we'll see if we actually do become good friends. I'm somewhat disappointed myself -- I want to find someone for something beyond plutonic friendship. Oh well, another time, with someone else, I suppose.

It's platonic. .

	09-01-2004 11:49									#78
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plutonic, platonic -- whatever

	09-01-2004 18:02									#79
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quote: Originally posted by MrFun plutonic friendship.

BOOM!

	09-01-2004 19:36									#80
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maybe stupid question....but why not anuthing else then friends...in your first post you really liked the guy....

	09-01-2004 19:43									#81
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..............but weren't attracted ? then went on a date ?

	09-01-2004 23:32									#82
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Like I told Ken at the end of our first evening -- I did not know for sure at that point.

After our second evening together yesterday, I realized that I was not attracted to him to be more intimate with him.

	09-01-2004 23:47									#83
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I think MrFun

a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons)
b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos
c) Is very, very, very picky
d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual



So, which is it MrFun? A 2 year dry spell is not because you haven't been trying.

Edit: Crush from "cruch", is that even a word!

	09-01-2004 23:51									#84
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quote: Originally posted by Japher I think MrFun a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons) b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos c) Is very, very, very picky d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual So, which is it MrFun? A 2 year dry spell is not because you haven't been trying. Edit: Crush from "cruch", is that even a word!

Yeah -- I wanted to deliberately hurt Ken -- that is why I wait soooooooo long and I never told him what I thought until we went all the way up to our SECOND date!

	10-01-2004 00:58									#85
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quote: Originally posted by Japher I think MrFun a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons) b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos c) Is very, very, very picky d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual

	10-01-2004 03:35									#86
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quote: Originally posted by Japher I think MrFun c) Is very, very, very picky

Actually, a couple of my friends have outright told me in the past, once or twice, that I might be a little too picky. But you exaggerate it much more than they did, and I'm not sure I agree with those two friends of mine.

quote: Originally posted by Japher d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual

It's true -- I have been considering recently, about coming out as a straight guy who digs chicks.

	10-01-2004 04:33									#87
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oh no you just stay gay now....more girls for me

	10-01-2004 04:35									#88
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Like it would matter. He'd date them all, but would end up just being friends... Metrosexual

	10-01-2004 08:25									#89
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quote: Originally posted by Japher Like it would matter. He'd date them all, but would end up just being friends... Metrosexual

Anyway, there are a couple of other local, new guys that I have already met and I'm going to see what happens -- I could use a couple of platonic friends down here in the middle of nowhere.

	10-01-2004 09:00									#90
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Does "platonic friends" mean "friends, but we are gay, so there is something exceptional in not having sexual relationships together" ?