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Spiffor
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CPA - Evil Clone brigade
Nov 2001
time: 06:34
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Originally posted by Monk
Mrs. Spiffor sounds like a mind-blowing person. Did you engage in any contracts with the Devil in order to meet this girl? |
Not even that. I just decide to stop sticking my finger in the arse, and to start looking for girls. I actually had several opportunities by this time. I asked Mrs. Spiffor out (first time I actually asked out in my life) first, and I got very lucky 
Actually, it was difficult at first week, because she fairst said "no", out of respect for her ex  (it was an excuse for her to hesitate). After one week of non-harassing but clear insistance, she finally said yes as her heart told her for some time now 
We were complete strangers in September, we were acquaintances in November - December, and we made out in January. Not too quick, n ot too slow. Just that we were attracted to each other, and still are
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Barinthus
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A Magical Moment...
Jan 2004
time: 21:34
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Originally posted by rev
Savor the feeling, skywalker. You'll miss it, maybe even regret it, when the two of you part ways, but in the end it's all worth it, I think.
Then again, I'm on the same drug you are. It doesn't end when you graduate high school, thank God, and it never loses its potency. |
Actually after getting your heart broken one time too often and leaving in your dust couple of shattered hearts, you'll become a bitter cynic who's more realistic about love 
Just kidding. Oh yeah it's a headly feeling. However the problem I tend to make stupid decisions and sometimes get myself into a situation I don't want. And after that feeling wear off, you start to notice how annoying the other person is so you're like uh oh what did I get myself into?
So I've learned to tell myself whoa wait, you pup. Take time to know her as a person before making a move that I could regret later on.
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Bereta_Eder
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and your reply young kenobi should be: hey who's saying anything about a relationship? just come with me ice skating and have a fun time!
of course you should say it in better english than mine but the idea is keep going young grasshoper, don't take no for an answer. persuade her to come with you and your friends icesakting by lightening up the mood. the more time you are together and do things together the more she'll be getting used to you and the more closer you will become.
so get to it young man! maneuvre!
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Bereta_Eder
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yeah well there's the fine balance of not actually pushing it too far lest the little bird flies away. but it's always trial and errour and not two birds are the same.
so if even after you lighten up the mood skywalker she still won't go out with you, back away and live to fight another day
edit: and as other said you kicked ass just for asking her out btw  you're on the right track kid!
Last edited by Bereta_Eder on 06-03-2004 at 02:33
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Monk
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I don't think we're in Brønshøj anymore
Jan 1970
time: 06:34
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Originally posted by paiktis22
and your reply young kenobi should be: hey who's saying anything about a relationship? just come with me ice skating and have a fun time!
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Exactly, paiktis! Hey skywalker, if you don't listen to this man, there's a one-room apartment in horrific western Copenhagen right here waiting for you.
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Monk
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I don't think we're in Brønshøj anymore
Jan 1970
time: 06:34
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Originally posted by skywalker
What does pride have to do with it? We're sophomores - most people don't hook up until junior or senior year. If she doesn't feel ready to go beyond "a bit more than friends" then I'm not going to try and pressure her.
That's not to say I'm not going to keep doing what I've been doing. We just aren't going to dive headfirst into a strong relationship. |
AAAAAAAH!
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Monk
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I don't think we're in Brønshøj anymore
Jan 1970
time: 06:34
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Originally posted by Urban Ranger
I always take "no" for a "no."
I figured, if a woman like you enough, she would not play hard to get. If she does, she's not the sort of women I want to have a long term relation with, anyway. |
Wishy-washy PC stuff! Skywalker, I'm not going to advise anybody to stop being nice and caring, but you've got to remember that our physical attraction is based on a lot more than who is being nice to us. We're talking different scales here, and personally, I've always found my female friends relatively un-attractive despite them being fine companions (a great advantage, by the way).
If you guys have to continue having unsexy relations to each other for now, I guess that's the way it's got to be, but at the very least you should do some flirting or some other measures to excite her and maintain some kind of pseudo-romantic relationship. In romantic affairs, there's nothing wrong with the old saying that you should just be yourself, but remember that being yourself doesn't exclude the possibility of a highly strategic battle plan to accomplish the task.
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Dr Strangelove
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Don't listen to these guys! Just go out and have a good time. You will do better for yourself if you cement the personal bond between the two of you rather than pushing things.
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Drogue
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Omnipresent conscience
Oct 2002
time: 05:34
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Originally posted by Spiffor
We were complete strangers in September, we were acquaintances in November - December, and we made out in January. Not too quick, n ot too slow. Just that we were attracted to each other, and still are |
That does seem quite slow. Verres and I was the other way. It didn't feel quick at all, but she told me she liked me the first night we met. By the end of the week we were going out on dates. 3 weeks after we'd met she went on holiday for 2 weeks, and I've never felt so lonely  By that time I already felt so 'into' the relationship that it was a huge part of my life. By the time she got back I'd booked tickets for us to go away to a music festival together for the weekend. It didn't feel weird at all going away together after knowing each other just over a month, it already felt serious and comitted. Even now, each day seems like such a long time, that having a day without seeing her makes me miss her At the time I remember thinking "doesn't this seem a little fast to feel like this" which was quickly answered with a "no" We spent a lot of time together, and it didn't feel that quick. I remember after about 2 weeks of going out we went to Oxford for the day, since I was expecting to go there for Uni, and she was looking at applying, and when we walked into one college I talked my way in, and when asked, she said she was "his girlfriend", and it just made me smile so much. I knew we were together by then, but it didn't really sink in until she said that
Anyways, the point I was trying to make ( ) was that however fast or slow things go, when it's right it doesn't seem fast or slow. For a usual relationship, what happened with Verres and I would seem fast, and Spiffor and Mrs. Spiffor would seem slow, but neither felt it too fast or slow, because they were 'right'
We really are lucky
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Drogue
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Omnipresent conscience
Oct 2002
time: 05:34
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Originally posted by Oncle Boris
It all depends on how large your ego is. Personally, I can't stand hanging with a girl who probably knows of my intentions, but will let me wait for the sake of her proudness. |
I know what you mean. I kinda agree. I would feel some sort of resentment for a girl who left me hanging just because she felt like it, but it depends on the reason. If she wasn't sure she wanted to start a relationship, or any reason really, I'd be happy to wait. But if it's just because she wants to keep me hanging when she knows what she's going to say, then the only reason seems to be at my expense, which isn't a good way to start a relationship, IMHO. If someone is doing something that they know adversely affects me, when they don't have a reason to, then that isn't the best way to start a relationship.
I also half agree with UR. It depends on why she's playing hard to get. Many people I've seen are 'told' that it's the best way to get someone interested, or that it's the 'done thing', or put pressure on to. Some may feel not ready for a relationship. Some may just be scared of getting hurt, and so not wanting to jump in. There are many reasons where playing hard to get isn't just playing hard to get, it has a reason behind it. However when it is just that, playing with someones feelings, then I agree it isn't a good way to start a relationship. I know many girls do it, just for kicks, I'm just very lucky that my wonderful Louisey (I will get killed for 'cutening' her name ) was honest with me about her feelings It's not like I would have got the hints anytime soon anyway...
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05-03-2004 22:52
ray: 
or a 
at best 
You really do have no regard for your personal safety, do you?
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