22-02-2005 05:58									#1
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Okay, I've not started the new job yet, next academic year. But, today, I accepted a new teaching/coaching position with my current school's RIVAL. Everything points to this being a good decision:

(1) more money, less teaching work-load

(2) opportunity to take over a storied wrestling program

(3) closer to home

(4) my wife teaches dance at the new school

However, I'm incredibly sad. Seriously! I'll be leaving a wonderful job with a superb work environment and great friends. Part of me also feels like I'm abandoning my friends whom I coach wrestling with currently.

The school I'll be going to is very excited.

What do you think? Will this feeling pass? Is it an indication that I've made a poor decision?

	22-02-2005 06:00									#2
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What does the rivalry look like? Is it light-hearted, or do people take it seriosuly?

	22-02-2005 06:13									#3
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quote: What do you think? Will this feeling pass? Is it an indication that I've made a poor decision?

It's one of those side effects of being an allround good persoon I'm afraid. Not much you can do about it.

	22-02-2005 06:55									#4
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quote: Originally posted by Spiffor What does the rivalry look like? Is it light-hearted, or do people take it seriosuly?

There are extremists on both sides. The only people who are level-headed about it are those like myself, people who didn't go to either school.

	22-02-2005 06:57									#5
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You are just taking this personally.

	22-02-2005 06:58									#6
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quote: Originally posted by alva quote: What do you think? Will this feeling pass? Is it an indication that I've made a poor decision? It's one of those side effects of being an allround good persoon I'm afraid. Not much you can do about it.

I guess I just need to mourn for some amount of time, then begin anew.

	22-02-2005 07:09									#7
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quote: I'll be leaving a wonderful job with a superb work environment and great friends. Part of me also feels like I'm abandoning my friends whom I coach wrestling with currently.

What does a job have to do with friends? Are you a professional or someone who can only get hired or do the job if they are your firends?

quote: (1) more money, less teaching work-load (2) opportunity to take over a storied wrestling programe

Oh, I see, you are looking for a career and not a job.

If you want to work with friends in a friendly environment go work at blockbuster.

Seriously, grow up, and do what you need to for your family and your future.

	22-02-2005 07:28									#8
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quote: Originally posted by Japher What does a job have to do with friends? Are you a professional or someone who can only get hired or do the job if they are your firends? Oh, I see, you are looking for a career and not a job. If you want to work with friends in a friendly environment go work at blockbuster. Seriously, grow up, and do what you need to for your family and your future.

That a boy Japher! Just what I need. A cold bucket of water dumped over my head.

Btw, I did do what I needed to do for me and my family. I took the job.

	22-02-2005 07:36									#9
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quote: I did do what I needed to do for me and my family. I took the job.

Good.

The best decissions made in life seem to also be the hardest to make.

You are doing fine in acknowledging the fact that what you and what you need are two different things... You'd be a fewl to go with what you want at this point in your life.

The trick now is to make the two the same thing.

You can work toward what you want, but you can ignore your responsiblities to yourself and your family. If you were to stay...

	22-02-2005 07:39									#10
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quote: Originally posted by Japher What does a job have to do with friends? Are you a professional or someone who can only get hired or do the job if they are your firends?

And people think Americans care only about money.

	22-02-2005 07:42									#11
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quote: And people think Americans care only about money.

And ppl wonder why communism failed.

	22-02-2005 07:44									#12
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It's all temporary if you're planning on higher acedemic thingamawhatsits. Take the job, get the higher academic thingamawhatsits, in whatever order is necessary.

Trust me, the academic thingamawhatsits matter. Today I saw an ad in the paper (the friggin local paper) saying "Ph.D in Computer Science, Security Clearance, 110K salary." That's about twice what I currently make, just for a friggin Ph.D. and a US citizenship (plus security clearance). I mean, stick with it -- it only gets better, knock on wood.

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	22-02-2005 07:45									#13
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quote: Originally posted by chegitz guevara And people think Americans care only about money.

quote: Originally posted by Japher And ppl wonder why communism failed.

Why did I know this was going to happen?

	22-02-2005 07:46									#14
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quote: Why did I know this was going to happen?

Because Che is Che and I discovered that Pepsi Edge goes perfect with Vodka

Money make the world go round.... wow! so does Vodka!

	22-02-2005 07:47									#15
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quote: Originally posted by dojoboy Why did I know this was going to happen?

Because this is Apolyton

	22-02-2005 07:52									#16
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As for your job-blues: IIUC, it's temporary until next September or October?

You shouldn't worry too much about it then, because you'd have left your previous school anyway, and you won't stay long enough in your new school to make a big difference onits member's training.

Besides, the money is not the only reason why you switched: you're now closer to your home, and to your wife. This is priceless, and many people would think you have your priorities straight.

You should keep contact with your friends from your previous school, because you're probably more than simply a colleague to them. As for those who can't forgive you for your "betrayal" (if any), well, these people didn't value much in the first place then, if your teaching location affects so much your relationship. There's no need to cry for them.

	22-02-2005 08:08									#17
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quote: Originally posted by Spiffor As for your job-blues: IIUC, it's temporary until next September or October? You shouldn't worry too much about it then, because you'd have left your previous school anyway, and you won't stay long enough in your new school to make a big difference onits member's training. Besides, the money is not the only reason why you switched: you're now closer to your home, and to your wife. This is priceless, and many people would think you have your priorities straight. You should keep contact with your friends from your previous school, because you're probably more than simply a colleague to them. As for those who can't forgive you for your "betrayal" (if any), well, these people didn't value much in the first place then, if your teaching location affects so much your relationship. There's no need to cry for them.

Ah, excellent points.

I do intend to stay in the new job for many a year. I'll be only the third head coach of this program's history, roughly 45 years. The current coach has been there for 21 years. He's there for at least one more when I arrive. But, at 68, he's looking to get out. The fella before him, the first coach, was there for 24 years. When he retired, the alumni bought a brand new home and sold it to him for $1.