04-08-2005 08:32									#1
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In a literal sense, I don't. Lust at first sight? Certainly.

What about love at first conversation? I don't think that happens either, not real love. Infatuation, sure.

So how about it? How soon do you think one person can truly love someone else after meeting them? How soon do you think people can truly love each other? I honestly don't have any idea, just wondering what you folks think.

	04-08-2005 08:40									#2
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Yes. Love at first sight doesn't do the feeling justice verbally. Thunderstruck is a much more apt term.

	04-08-2005 09:13									#3
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Yes

	04-08-2005 09:26									#4
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I say yes and no. I get blubbery around some girls and your thoughts are going miles a minute.

But those are really rare. Then reality hits you like a semi-truck and brings you back from fantasyland...

...Unfortunately.

	04-08-2005 09:28									#5
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No. I do believe that certain people just "click" and quickly learn to love each other. But not love at first sight.

	04-08-2005 09:29									#6
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But is that really love, Franky? Infatuation seems like a more accurate description. I don't think they are the same thing.

	04-08-2005 09:32									#7
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Perhaps a better question is this:

Does love really exist? Or, do you believe that "love is the pleasant interval between meeting a beautiful girl and coming to the realization that she looks like a haddock?"

	04-08-2005 09:39									#8
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No, on first sight it will be lust.

OTOH love does exist. It's an evolutionary mechanism to strengthen bonds between individuals.

	04-08-2005 09:40									#9
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I think love exists, but it's so rare that people think it's extinct. And nowadays people are all about sex and don't really care about love anymore.

They say love is dead, but I say that it's taking a looong hiatus.

quote: But is that really love, Franky? Infatuation seems like a more accurate description. I don't think they are the same thing.

I dunno, to be honest. Sometimes yeah, thats attraction. But other times there's just something about a certain girl that draws you to them and you just don't know what it is.

Love is rare, my friend. But it's out there.

	04-08-2005 09:42									#10
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love as in an alteration of the brain? of course it exists. It's part of the complex social structure of humans and the human brain (though other animals such as dogs seem capable of it).

	04-08-2005 09:52									#11
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Loves effects can be biologically seen with increases in serotonin in the brain.

As well as the near insane actions of some lovers that are crossed and feel wronged. Love makes you do weird things.

quote: It is remarkable how similar the pattern of love is to the pattern of insanity. -Merovingian (The Matrix Revolutions)

	04-08-2005 09:55									#12
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thunderstruck at first sight yeah

love at first conversation yeah

JM

	04-08-2005 10:21									#13
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how about love if you have never met them?
is it possible to fall in love just from letters and photos?

personally i don't think so.. but what do you guys think?

	04-08-2005 10:23									#14
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I don't think I could

I can imagine some people do

(the modern method is with chat and emails..)

Jon Miller
(I don't really think I know people unless I talk to them in person)

(in person talks seem a lot realler to me then virtual ones (and I include phone conversations as virtual))

	04-08-2005 10:25									#15
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quote: Originally posted by boann how about love if you have never met them? is it possible to fall in love just from letters and photos? personally i don't think so.. but what do you guys think?

I believe it's possible to fall in love with the mental image (I use image loosely- I'm not talking about visual appearance alone) of someone by letters/email etc. But when you finally meet them, you may find out things aren't quite as you pictured them.

	04-08-2005 10:27									#16
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(I think one of my cousins fell for a penpal or something, but maybe yuo would argue that she wasn't really in love with him until they met)

one thing is that some people take the virtual world (be it chat, or MMOs, or whathave you) very seriously

they probably could, I can't

I have tried to do sex/flirt chat type stuff, it just doesn't do anything for me

JM

	04-08-2005 11:13									#17
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quote: Originally posted by Frankychan But other times there's just something about a certain girl that draws you to them and you just don't know what it is.

Sure, but that doesn't seem to happen at the first sight.

	04-08-2005 11:15									#18
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I have looked at a girl, and had her look at me, and felt this huge connection and wanted her extremely bad

for months..

of course, I couldn't talk to her, but mumble

so it all came to naught..

JM

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mumbling is a lost art. It's sad, women don't appreciate a good mumbler.

	04-08-2005 11:18									#20
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yeah...

so anyway, I don't in anyway which for or appreciate 'first sight' stuff

would much rather not tihnk about it, get to talking to them, then discover that I like them (generally first conversation, sometimes a bit later)

of course, it generally doesn't take too many conversations for me to screw up...

so that doesn't go anywhere either

JM

	04-08-2005 11:27									#21
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just don't talk. Supposedly women like the strong silent type. . Or they just think you're a psychotic killer.

	04-08-2005 12:29									#22
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Com'on jon, just kiss her on the lips. She is likely to smack you, but it's better than mumbling

	04-08-2005 13:15									#23
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Yes. In the first place you call it bullshit, but when it happens you just forget about everything else

	04-08-2005 14:00									#24
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quote: quote: Originally posted by boann how about love if you have never met them? is it possible to fall in love just from letters and photos? personally i don't think so.. but what do you guys think? Originally posted by Dis I believe it's possible to fall in love with the mental image (I use image loosely- I'm not talking about visual appearance alone) of someone by letters/email etc. But when you finally meet them, you may find out things aren't quite as you pictured them.

I agree. I think you would pretty much fall in love with an idealization of who you think that person is...maybe you're right, maybe you're wrong, maybe it's just a little off the mark...but its who you assume the person is. Hard to determine nowadays...but then again, we all live in a new age. *shrug*

	04-08-2005 16:13									#25
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger OTOH love does exist. It's an evolutionary mechanism to strengthen bonds between individuals.

you're such an old romantic

	04-08-2005 16:40									#26
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quote: Originally posted by Guynemer In a literal sense, I don't. Lust at first sight? Certainly. What about love at first conversation? I don't think that happens either, not real love. Infatuation, sure. So how about it? How soon do you think one person can truly love someone else after meeting them? How soon do you think people can truly love each other? I honestly don't have any idea, just wondering what you folks think.

I believe in attraction (perhaps even love) at first sight and love at first conversation for sure! Why? Because it happened to me... Before that, I would probably have said no...

Carolus

	04-08-2005 17:19									#27
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No. Just like love doesn't exist either in pure form no matter what you people start crying about. Of course, you lower the standards so you can say the word.. which ultimately is self defeat. You have no balls to true love.

	04-08-2005 17:22									#28
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I do. It worked out for us, anyway.

21 years later and still going strong.

	04-08-2005 17:46									#29
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I do too. Got married 5 mo after meeting (with 3 1/2 of those mo in different countries). 25 years later and still going strong.

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	04-08-2005 18:26									#30
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quote: Originally posted by Guynemer Perhaps a better question is this: Does love really exist?

It's a hormone called oxytocin.

BTW, 1st time my grandfather saw my grandmother, he told his Army buddy that was the girl he was gonna marry. He did.

I still remember the moment I first met the Bunnygrrl. I wasn't thunderstruck, but that cute weird chick definately made an impression on me.