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mindseye
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A Yankee living in Shanghai
Apr 1999 time: 13:37
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I think you can make a good case of what DaShi mentioned about responsibility for making decisions. As he said, under the one child policy, many children (especially boys) have their every whim catered to. For example, if there aren't enough seats on the subway, a mother will stand in order that her teenage son can sit.
Also, urban Chinese youth are in some ways less socially mature than their western counterparts, further impairing their ability to make responsible decisions for themselves. Many of my under age 25 Shanghainese students have never cooked a meal, washed dishes, done housework, laundry, or ironing. Some have never made their own bed.
One of my one-on-one students is a wonderful woman my age (forties), a successful corporate exec, husband the same. When their chubby mid-teens son is at home from boarding school, he basically lives in his bedroom playing online games. Recently, during summer vacation, his mother wanted to spend some "quality time" with him, so she asked him to accompany her on a business trip to some city out west, they would stay over the weekend and just have fun together.
He said he wanted to think about it for a day. The next day he calmly informed her that he would rather stay at home and play computer games. She was crestfallen, and ultimately made the trip alone.
This is the reality of the online gaming problem among urban Chinese kids.
Like most any westerner, I bridle at the idea of a government dictating how I entertain myself. Yet, when I see these pc-addicted kids, some of them dropping out of school, I can see a real social problem that someone needs to address. Since so many parents are unwilling to go against their child's wishes, that pretty much leaves the government in some capacity.
It's not a simple issue of personal freedom, it's about a social problem involving a kind of addiction that is negatively affecting the lives of many young people, not much differently than the abuse of some narcotic.
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Sikander
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Boulder, Colorado, United Snakes of America
Jan 2000 time: 22:37
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quote: Originally posted by mindseye
I think you can make a good case of what DaShi mentioned about responsibility for making decisions. As he said, under the one child policy, many children (especially boys) have their every whim catered to. For example, if there aren't enough seats on the subway, a mother will stand in order that her teenage son can sit.
Also, urban Chinese youth are in some ways less socially mature than their western counterparts, further impairing their ability to make responsible decisions for themselves. Many of my under age 25 Shanghainese students have never cooked a meal, washed dishes, done housework, laundry, or ironing. Some have never made their own bed.
One of my one-on-one students is a wonderful woman my age (forties), a successful corporate exec, husband the same. When their chubby mid-teens son is at home from boarding school, he basically lives in his bedroom playing online games. Recently, during summer vacation, his mother wanted to spend some "quality time" with him, so she asked him to accompany her on a business trip to some city out west, they would stay over the weekend and just have fun together.
He said he wanted to think about it for a day. The next day he calmly informed her that he would rather stay at home and play computer games. She was crestfallen, and ultimately made the trip alone.
This is the reality of the online gaming problem among urban Chinese kids.
Like most any westerner, I bridle at the idea of a government dictating how I entertain myself. Yet, when I see these pc-addicted kids, some of them dropping out of school, I can see a real social problem that someone needs to address. Since so many parents are unwilling to go against their child's wishes, that pretty much leaves the government in some capacity.
It's not a simple issue of personal freedom, it's about a social problem involving a kind of addiction that is negatively affecting the lives of many young people, not much differently than the abuse of some narcotic. |
Thanks for your excellent analysis from a western point of view (as usual). It is particularly interesting to me to hear some of the pitfalls of the one child policy in regards to family relations. Parents hold their children closer (too close in some instances) and children miss the immensely stimulating impact of sibling relations. There is much more to this than a simple disparity in genders.
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Bosh
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Taehan Mingook
Jan 1970 time: 00:37
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quote: I think you can make a good case of what DaShi mentioned about responsibility for making decisions. As he said, under the one child policy, many children (especially boys) have their every whim catered to. For example, if there aren't enough seats on the subway, a mother will stand in order that her teenage son can sit.
Also, urban Chinese youth are in some ways less socially mature than their western counterparts, further impairing their ability to make responsible decisions for themselves. Many of my under age 25 Shanghainese students have never cooked a meal, washed dishes, done housework, laundry, or ironing. Some have never made their own bed. |
You get a lot of spoiled brats who've never cooked their own meal in Seoul too but having adults stand up to make room for teenagers If they tried to pull that **** here they wouldn't last a second, nobody does that to the dread ajummas (middle-aged married women).
It seems like that, while China has a lot of good sides, EVERY SINGE ONE of my pet peeves of about Korea exists in a bizarrely-concentrated form in China. In many ways Korea is a pretty good mid-way point between Chinese and Japanese culture...
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aneeshm
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Indore , Madhya Pradesh
Jul 2001 time: 11:07
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quote: Originally posted by mindseye
I think you can make a good case of what DaShi mentioned about responsibility for making decisions. As he said, under the one child policy, many children (especially boys) have their every whim catered to. For example, if there aren't enough seats on the subway, a mother will stand in order that her teenage son can sit.
Also, urban Chinese youth are in some ways less socially mature than their western counterparts, further impairing their ability to make responsible decisions for themselves. Many of my under age 25 Shanghainese students have never cooked a meal, washed dishes, done housework, laundry, or ironing. Some have never made their own bed.
One of my one-on-one students is a wonderful woman my age (forties), a successful corporate exec, husband the same. When their chubby mid-teens son is at home from boarding school, he basically lives in his bedroom playing online games. Recently, during summer vacation, his mother wanted to spend some "quality time" with him, so she asked him to accompany her on a business trip to some city out west, they would stay over the weekend and just have fun together.
He said he wanted to think about it for a day. The next day he calmly informed her that he would rather stay at home and play computer games. She was crestfallen, and ultimately made the trip alone.
This is the reality of the online gaming problem among urban Chinese kids.
Like most any westerner, I bridle at the idea of a government dictating how I entertain myself. Yet, when I see these pc-addicted kids, some of them dropping out of school, I can see a real social problem that someone needs to address. Since so many parents are unwilling to go against their child's wishes, that pretty much leaves the government in some capacity.
It's not a simple issue of personal freedom, it's about a social problem involving a kind of addiction that is negatively affecting the lives of many young people, not much differently than the abuse of some narcotic. |
So you're saying that the one-child policy , which is the restriction of a preson's reproductive freedom , led to another repressive policy ? How communist . . . . . . . . .
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mindseye
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A Yankee living in Shanghai
Apr 1999 time: 13:37
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quote: Originally posted by Bosh
You get a lot of spoiled brats who've never cooked their own meal in Seoul too but having adults stand up to make room for teenagers If they tried to pull that **** here they wouldn't last a second, nobody does that to the dread ajummas (middle-aged married women). |
While moms will sometimes stand for teens on the subway, for children anyone will stand - even adult strangers. And in China, that's saying something. People here seldom give up seats to anyone, in fact they will race to beat others to a seat (even adult men rushing past women). But the two consistant exceptions are made for children and pregnant women, who are always immediately offered a seat. Old woman with heavy bags? Forget it. Ten year old kid? Here, take my seat! On the subway you can vividly see how important children are here.
quote: It seems like that, while China has a lot of good sides, EVERY SINGE ONE of my pet peeves of about Korea exists in a bizarrely-concentrated form in China. In many ways Korea is a pretty good mid-way point between Chinese and Japanese culture... |
BTW, you probably know Korean culture is definitely gaining in popularity here. Film, tv, pop stars, restaurants - Korea is the perfect substitute as things Japanese lose a bit of their "coolness".
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