18-02-2003 19:06									#31
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Time. Besides that, I can't think of anything.

	18-02-2003 19:37									#32
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Ok, here's what I've done thus far:

1.) Hook up with random, good-looking girls
2.) Strip Clubs
3.) Go back home for a weekend (I live 7 hours from my college)
4.) Constantly push her by goin' back to the past
5.) Get her drunk (to no avail)

...sigh...

	18-02-2003 19:42									#33
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**** her sister/best friend

	18-02-2003 19:42									#34
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Why can't you still be a friend of her and have sex once a while? Friends are made for this (in my own curious, little world)

	18-02-2003 19:44									#35
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See, the problem with distance is, not only are we in classes together, she also lives in the room right next door...I could hit the wall and she's hear me.

That's prolly the worst part

	18-02-2003 19:47									#36
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The funny (or sad) thing is that I realize all of this. I just can't help it.

Like, she was gone this weekend in NYC (though, then again, that's where I was) and it was an awesome weekend, but the minute I saw her yesterday, it all came back.

Dah

	18-02-2003 19:47									#37
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quote: Originally posted by The Emperor Fabulous See, the problem with distance is, not only are we in classes together, she also lives in the room right next door...I could hit the wall and she's hear me. That's prolly the worst part

In that case **** ger sister/best frienf in your room so loudly she can hear

	18-02-2003 19:47									#38
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quote: Originally posted by TheStinger In that case **** ger sister/best frienf in your room so loudly she can hear

You may have a plan...though her best friend hasn't visited in a while.

Oh man, would that rule.

	18-02-2003 20:49									#39
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quote: Originally posted by Datajack Franit Why can't you still be a friend of her and have sex once a while? Friends are made for this (in my own curious, little world)

If you're in love with someone, but they don't reciprocate those feelings, this would really **** with your mind. Having intimate contact with the person and still remaining "friends" is going to make you cling to a false hope of the love developing. Then when he/she goes and finds someone they really do love and leaves you behind, you are going to be crushed beyond belief.

It's nothing but a recipe for emotional disaster. Too bad I've seen several of my friends put themselves through it.

	18-02-2003 21:17									#40
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quote: Originally posted by The Emperor Fabulous This is a thread for everyone. Basically its for those of us who just can't get over someone. Please help me. There's a girl I can't get over. We hooked up, and she convinced me that she wanted me. Then she found some hot guy and decided to go for him. Then he used her, and she came back to me, and sucker I am I went for it. Used me again, and now she just wants to be friends. I can't get over her. It's not like I can just hook up with other girls (though I did try that...it didn't work). So please, how do I get over her? ...god I whine a lot

I shalt now commune to you the ageless wisdom of some very cheap Greek songs:
Pare tilefono ton kerata,
kalytera tora para meta


Which means
call the horned one
it is better now than later.


horned one= the one who got cheated by his girlfriend/wife

you.

	18-02-2003 21:24									#41
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Some other characteristic phrases:

_"He can't wear a helmet"
_"He can't pass through the door"

	18-02-2003 21:51									#42
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The descriptive sentence:

"She wore them (the horns) to you".

	18-02-2003 22:44									#43
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Ding Ding Ding! Time. Time is the only thing that really heals it but distractions are a good way to keep your mind off of it so you don't know how slow the time is passing.

The bottom line is that the heart wants what it wants and there is no ryhme or reason to it. It just wants.

	18-02-2003 22:57									#44
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No, bonking her sister, best friend, whatever isn't going to help in the least. It isn't going to make her mad or jealous because she's the one who wants to be "just friends."

	19-02-2003 13:26									#45
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Try to think of them taking a good crap and then eating it.

	19-02-2003 13:28									#46
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Not you eating it of course. Although that might work as well.

	19-02-2003 13:32									#47
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I'm probably going to get bashed for this but...

Best thing you can do is find someone else and make her notice you two together. I have found out that making the girl jealous (or at least perceivably) helps in getting over them.

But this is probably going to get me in trouble but hey! I've been in the same damn boat as you....and I hooked up with someone I like as well. Win/Win!

	20-02-2003 07:09									#48
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quote: Originally posted by Boris Godunov If you're in love with someone, but they don't reciprocate those feelings, this would really **** with your mind. Having intimate contact with the person and still remaining "friends" is going to make you cling to a false hope of the love developing. Then when he/she goes and finds someone they really do love and leaves you behind, you are going to be crushed beyond belief. It's nothing but a recipe for emotional disaster. Too bad I've seen several of my friends put themselves through it.

It seemed like a slow night for the OT - but there's still some gems out there (even if I had to go to page 3 to find it).

Great advice. Should be on everyone's emotional bulletin board. Mine included.

	20-02-2003 08:20									#49
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Try a big truch and drive all over her. That will show her!!!!
Tell her she is a "very bad person" and she's ruining your life?

	20-02-2003 08:31									#50
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The Emperor, something seems to be wrong with this girl. Your post indicates that if you stay with her, you world will be a permanent nightmare.

I think you already appreciate this mentally. So, make a decision to move on and stick to it.

Stop seeing her, now.

	20-02-2003 08:34									#51
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What Ned said.

	20-02-2003 10:43									#52
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I'm talking to her best friend right now

	20-02-2003 14:12									#53
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quote: Originally posted by The Emperor Fabulous I'm talking to her best friend right now

HaHaHa

Its the best course of action in the long run

	20-02-2003 17:49									#54
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I've been dumped many times in the past, and suffered months and in some cases over a year of misery as a result. Each time I saw one of them in later years, I'd instantly return to a state of misery, if only while I was in their company.

Then everything changed. I finally met a woman who would not only put up with me, but would live with me, have a child with me, and put up with my slovenliness. I will have lived with her for 10 years early this March. Now I find when I meet an old flame I can assess them objectively, from a secure position as it were.

Sometimes I have an attack of lust for them, but generally even when this is the case I find that the old emotional intensity is not there. This applies to women I meet for the first time now too.

Given all of this I may not be the best person to give advice, but here goes...

Many previous posters have aluded to the "heart having no choice in these matters" or some such. This is true, and has a biochemical cause. When we first meet someone (or sometimes afterwards) if we are particularly attracted to them a cascade of hormones is produced, one of which is dopamine. This occupies receptors associated with the pleasure centres of the brain, and, as with food, drugs, sex, computer games, gambling, etc, we want more. Even if it is self-destructive, we want more.

Because of the power of association in our psychologies, everytime we meet this person, it stimulates this reaction.

Now, knowing the cause of the problem doesn't make it go away, but it does give us the ability to step outside ourselves a little and see our reaction for what it is, accept it and not let it overpower us.

I haven't tested this method on dumpers, but I have used it to good effect on women who I have had feelings of lust for since I met my partner. It has always worked for me, and generally the "thunder in the trousers" fades for that person over time, with the help of the knowledge of why it is so.

Good luck The Emperor Fabulous and as Jon Miller said (I think) these things are what life is, and if we don't experience them, we aren't living.