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Skywise
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Samara's best friend
Jan 2002
time: 05:27
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Is it natural when your a guy that its always your fault no matter what? Why is it that between my girlfriend and me, I`m always the one that`s wrong eventhough I know I ain`t?!
Example, its her week to get the groceries so see goes. She buys everything as usual but no bread because there was one half remaining in the fridge....When I go get the groceries, I ALWAYS buy bread cuz I know I`ll have to go back the next or next next day to get some...So the day after she made the groceries, she calls me at work and asks me to buy some bread. I say no problem. When I get to the groceriy store I buy milk.....When I get home, she tells me:" Haha, I asked you for bread and you bought milk, you`ll have to gp again later". I say:" No way, you go". She starts ranting about the fact that she asked me to buy bread and I bought milk and its my fault and I have to go back. My point of view is, I worked all day, you worked half a day, I went to the store to fetch the bread that YOU didn`t buy when you were supposed to. I made a mistake but now it`s your turn to go get it.
My point is that if she had bought the bread when she did the groceries then I wouldn`t have had to go buy some, thus my reason for not wanting to go again....even if I bought milk instead of bread.
Who do you think is right?
And no answer from all you girl suck ups. You know who you are. You know, the type of guy that would give reason to a girl at anytime just so he can have her attention. I need regular peoples opinion.
Why is it always worst when the guy makes a mistake than when the girl makes a mistake??
Thanks
Spec.
Last edited by Skywise on 08-04-2003 at 21:02
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H Tower
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ditto what UR said. She asked you to go buy bread, you said ok, and instead went and bought milk instead just to piss her off? why did you do that?
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Demerzel
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As long as you remember the golden rule you'll do okay with a woman.
"As a man, you're always in the wrong. The woman is always right".
Not fair in the slightest but that's the rule. But as others point out, save the arguments/fights for something important not whether you have some bread or not.
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Skywise
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Samara's best friend
Jan 2002
time: 05:27
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quote:
Originally posted by H Tower
ditto what UR said. She asked you to go buy bread, you said ok, and instead went and bought milk instead just to piss her off? why did you do that? |
Of course not!! Just because I was loaded at work and she was taking to me while I was working and I didn't quite get what she told me....when I got to the store I knew I had to buy something....that to me was milk...I did what I thought was right.
THE POINT IS NOT THE BREAD PEOPLE! The only person here that answered me my question is Rah. Stick to the point people, not the words. Its a situation that resumes pretty much how girls and guys think.
Spec.
Last edited by Skywise on 08-04-2003 at 21:07
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Pyrodrew
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It's not about the bread, it sounds like more about control.
You would prefer she buys the bread before the 1/2 loaf runs out. Doing so would mean she would have to change what she has always done.
She would prefer the bread be bought only later (when there is no bread?) & perhaps expects you pick up the bread at the grocery whenever it does run out. Doing so means you have to change what you've always done.
IMO, your process is far more efficient since you're wasting less time making 1 item shopping trips. But more importantly, it is futile to blame who was wrong since that solves nothing & just gets someone upset. She should have been understanding that sometimes people forget & maybe ask you get it on your drive home tomorrow... instead she took it to turn the favor into a demand = "now you will *have to* go back & get the bread", which does make it sound like you're her b!tch.
IMO, get the bread since this will make you hold by your agreement, but put it in your terms "It's only bread," that is important so she sees the bread is trivial & continue with, "I will get the bread next time I drive home from work." And next time, you ask her for a favor when you still have a 1/2 loaf of bread... "Since you're going to the store today, get bread for me." If you do her favors, she should do you favors as well. If 1 item shopping trips annoy you, let her know that.
Last edited by Pyrodrew on 08-04-2003 at 22:14
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Skywise
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Samara's best friend
Jan 2002
time: 05:27
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quote:
Originally posted by Pyrodrew
It's not about the bread, it sounds like more about control.
IMO, get the bread since this will make you hold by your agreement, but put it in your terms "It's only bread," that is important so she sees the bread is trivial & continue with, "I will get the bread next time I drive home from work." And next time, you ask her for a favor when you still have a 1/2 loaf of bread... "Since you're going to the store today, get bread for me." If you do her favors, she should do you favors as well. If 1 item shopping trips annoy you, let her know that. |
Pyro,  . I see your point.
John T, I hate to admit it.....but I agree.
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Flubber
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With a view of the Rockies
Aug 2000
time: 22:27
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heck I would go get the bread for you two if its such a big deal LOL
Seriously, I agree with JohnT and Rah . . . pick your battles and don't fight about the little things.You should get the bread on your next trip out ( Personally I wouldn't be bothered to make a special trip but I guess it depends how much you need/want bread). Also if you have a freezer you can always keep a spare loaf there just for that occasion. I find it stays reasonably fresh.
But the dispute is not about bread really . . . its about who does some of the annoying little errands that need to be done. Here I can understand your comment about her working half-time. If she works less she should have more time than you for household chores and errands ( assuming no kids).
I work more than my wife and would have simply said " sorry, I guess I messed up. Can you pick it up when you are out tomorrow?" She either says fine or indicates a desire for a sandwhich now. If the latter I go get the bread.
Oh and to answer your other questions
* As the husband I am always at fault and wrong. It is one of those rules of marriage they tell you after you take your vows. You were wrong before marriage as well, just blissfully unaware of that fact.
** knowing you aren't wrong changes nothing. Become one with your wrongness.
*** Who is right -- she is . . . see above.
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Bereta_Eder
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if you;re tired just say so...
honey i'm tired
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08-04-2003 19:15
) Im also the type that doesnt clear issues out with people cause I dont express myself alot either. But when it comes to gf, I make sure everything is understood and feeling commmunicated so these things dont happen. think of it this way, if you expressed how you were upset about her not picking up the bread earlier, she might not have even asked you to pick up the bread.
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