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OMG!! How cuuuuuuuuteeeeeeee!!!! I want a labrador!
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The background of my desktop has heaps of pics of labrador puppies 
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I'm not a DL I'm a person guddamit!!!! Nah I'm his fiance 
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Bereta_Eder
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Originally posted by Spiffor
Paiki :
I have a strong kynophobia, in the meaning that I am afraid of dogs the same way some are afraid of snakes or spiders. I don't know how you managed to overcome yours, but I'm really interested.
It sucks to be a kynophobe in residential neighbourhoods filled with barking dogs  |
Spiffor, I know. My mom used to be something like that. The moment she would become aware that a dog (or a cat) would be close to her she'd be really afraid with no reason at all.
That was passed on from her mother, my grandmother, who thought "dogs were dirty", unfortunately a common enough conviction amongst Greek women of older generations.
The history of this thing I think is important to see how kynophobia evolved and what was done about it.
So my mom when she was little brought home a puppy, holding it in her embrace all the way home.
The moment my grandma, who is an adorable person, but she thinks dogs are a threat to hygiene/dirty, saw my mom with the puppy she made her give it back saying (actually shouting in disgust) that it was "unclean" and barer of diseases.
After that, my mom started to develop kynophobia although she loves them and hates the fact that she has this phobia.
She tried her best not to pass it on to me. However, when I was little and I saw my mom be afraid when a dog or cat came closer (she even used to have her handbag on the ready, not to hit them but to block them from comming near her ), naturally, I started to feel that something was wrong with those animals.
But I never became really afraid of them myself. Then I got the puppy and there was absolutely nothing wrong.
Then I had to give the puppy up and was sad but I very quickly overcame it (small kids are like that I guess).
After that and as I grew up more, I realized that I couldn't let a dog touch me. I'd jump up and walk away. There wasn't even a question of carressing it.
I consciously decided to start making an effort when there were dogs at houses of friends not to ask them to keep them away from me, but to actually just try and be around them.
If said doggies seemed docile enough for me, I'd even push myself to carress them, usually in the back and always away from the face and mouth. Then little by little I'd dare carress them on the head to and try not to pull my hand quickly if they raised their head up.
that is what I have done. I haven't overcame it completely I think. I still feel uncomfortable when in the presence of stray dogs. But now I can handle even a not so docile dog, as long as it is domesticated.
I think what also helped me very much was the attitude of my mom who insisted in every suitable situation that dogs are great and that she has an irrationale fear and she's very sad about it because she would really love to have one. So she tried to let meknow that the problem rested with her not the doggies. She has also managed to overcome kynophobia to a large part now.
Then there were also stories about a shepher dog who used to sit by my crandle and guard me when I was a baby and bark ar everyone who was not family and tried to approach me. That was when we visited my grandparents' house (strangely enough, my grandma didn't want my mom to have a pet doggie but she was ok? with large dogs that acted as guards and stayed on my grandparents' large yard - of course my grandpa loved dogs and he even had to ability to calm even angry stray dogs with one look!).
Anyway I'm rambling.
But I said this story to let you know that I think that it is best to try and figure out where your kynophobia comes from, destroy that "myth" whatever that is in your head and simultaneously try to push yourself to become more and more accostumed to the doggies.
That can be ON YOUR OWN TERMS at first. Like I said, when visiting a friend's house who has a doggie and you think it's docile enough for you, then just try and be in the same room with it for a start.
Then gradually try to let it sniff you and then again gradually try to carress it and so on.
I didn't have problems with being around dogs. But after that I did have to work on it to overcome my fear, (in them touchingme, in carressing them, not pull my hand fast when they raised their heads up etc).
Of course when I was little I had my puppy in my embrace almost all the time without any problem. And I tried to remember that fact.
I wish you good luck
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Ook! Ook! Ack! Ack! Ack!
Jun 2002
time: 05:27
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Buddy scares the f out of everyone when they first meet her... but once they get to know her they wish we had never gotten her fixed.
Her hair does get everywhere. We try and get furniture that doesn't show hair... Luckily I have a truck I don't care about for her to ride in... she isn't allowed in my wives car.
Spaniels are great, I grew up with two... IMO I find them rather stupid, in general, and need a lot of training.
I also grew up with a toy poodle that was awesome... Even my friends who HATE poodles liked that dog.
I think going to the pound is a good idea... That is where I got buddy. She was the only dog that food all over her kennel and nothing in her bowl. Just go there and fall in love, they will love you back...
That reminds me; we crate trained Buddy. For a big dog in a smaller place this is a good technique. It gives them a place of their own and is a good potty training tech... We helped one of my friends find the largest pure breed Rott in N. California. That dog, namede Heuser, is 9 mo. and almost 100 lbs, and is not over weight!!!
Notice the trend? Buddy, I call her Bud. Heuser, short for Anheuser? All we need now is a dog named Weiser of Busch...
I think the dog won't mind living in a smaller place as long as you spend a lot of time with him/her. Take her for walks, find a dog run, or a field where you can taker him/her a couple of times a week to run. Their real main stay, after some training, is you and not a yard.
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