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Japher
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Ook! Ook! Ack! Ack! Ack!
Jun 2002
time: 05:29
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I'm sorry MrFun that you are in a bad way right now. I know nothing of your situation, but I will say that I don't think that you haven't found anyone in the pass year because of rumors. I think it something with you. Maybe you really don't want someone right now because you still feel the need to grieve, or blame, or be angry?
I find that even the most outlandish rumors have a degree of truth behind them.
IMO, you broke up with your ex in a rather undignified way. You, however, were not responsible for his mental state. Also, how are to be sure that if you broke up with him in front of his face that things would be any better. You didn't do anything wrong, it seems to be taking time for you to admit this, but one day you will realize this, and then the world will be different.
Once again I find myself agreeing with Sloww...
Q: I don't think one should dwell on how they should of done things differently, and I don't understand depression... I do think that MrFun should dwell on the matter for sometime (2 years is a little long for me, but for him?) but then forget about it. I think the experience itself is enough to change him into a more sensative man, but then, who knows, maybe one day he will find himself in a bad relationship that he is afraid to get out of... No one can weigh the outcomes of uncertainty, thus, one must weigh the certainties of their outcomes. What?
If I want out of a relationship, I end it... That's it. I can't be held responsible for things that might happen to someone else for me doing so. If such a thing is inevitable, then I may redirect my approach. Yet, the only inevitability I can be certain of in my approach is that the relationship will end.
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Q Cubed
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t3h y3ll0w p3ril
Apr 1999
time: 23:29
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what i meant with my last post is that often times, people in depression don't need to be reminded what it is they messed up because of their depression; they're quite aware of it and they know it happened because of the depression, and they don't need a third party telling them they made a bad decision, or that they made it worse with their bad decision, etc., etc., etc.
often times, when the depressed person is trying to get better, and trying to heal him/herself, he's even more acutely aware of the self-made disaster, and wants help fixing it--not another person, in addition to their worst critic (themselves), carping on how their failures could have been averted had they just done this or that.
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Boris Godunov
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Portland, OR
Aug 2001
time: 00:29
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Yes, Thorn, we can all see you are a melodramatically silly person who has to make himself feel important by making up a bunch what-he-thinks-is-cool-sounding pish-posh. Nobody cares, though, about your supposed deranged mental state (I, for one, think you're full of horsepoop), nobody is impressed or interested about your supposed relationship issues with your supposed boyfriend, and nobody sees you as anything other than a source of amusement for you erratic but obviously forced behavior.
Just keep this in mind going forward, and we'll all be at an understanding, thanks.
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Bereta_Eder
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Not to sound heartless or anything, /me sips on some blood , but having someone commite suicide is none's fault but their own. Unless you have tortured them or destroyed their lives or anything. Breaking up with someone doesn't really qualify though.
So those who think he killed himslef just cause you dumped him are, well, lacking IQ and/or are sorry ass people who want to hurt you.
Either way, fook them! (metaphorically).
and i estimate that that thing about not meeting someone just because of rumours is just in your head.
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MrFun
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of Iowa
Nov 2000
time: 23:29
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Thanks to the guys who gave me sympathy: QCubed, Boris, paiktis22, and others in this thread.
I guess Slowwhand was insensitive the way he initially put his thoughts -- it hurt, until I realized he agrees with me that breaking up over the phone should be avoided unless the situation does not allow any other option.
A couple of days after I broke up with him, but before his suicide, we talked for one last time on the phone for over an hour while I was still in Ecuador. I told him I appreciated all the things he did for me (helping me start college, encouraging me), and that I could not stop caring for him, or loving him (although the love would be different). It was a good talk, but alas, it did not prevent Mark from making an awful choice. 
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23-06-2003 21:20
Seems a bit pointless at my age and the relative immaturity of girls when in relationships right now.
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