13-07-2003 23:43									#1
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People say this all the time. They say "be confident". Well how in the hell do you be confident? If I knew how to be confident, I'd be confident already.

I hear heroin instills its users with confidence. But I don't like needles. I don't like drugs either.

any ideas?

	13-07-2003 23:49									#2
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I dunno, I'm highly confident... but I suspect I could be categorized as a sociopath.

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Sociopath? I figured you were on a perpetual bad-acid trip at worst. But I don't think anyone here would call you a *sociopath*...
Anyway, confidence can be acquired to some degree by playing mind games with yourself. Circular reasoning, for example. The people who hate you are mean, and by your standards bad people, therefore they aren't the kind of people you respect, therefore their opinions do not matter or affect you. Wrap yourself in a protective blanket of arrogance and condescension and nothing can hurt you or reach you. Except punches in the face, which hurt and happen quite frequently if you follow the advice I've just given you. That's why I said screw it, and waited for confidence to come to me. It took a few years, but it worked.
Alternately, you said you don't like drugs. Do you classify alcohol as a "drug" in that sense? If you're the right kind of drunk a night of boozing can teach you that no real harm comes from asserting yourself.

	14-07-2003 00:25									#4
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Fake it, after a while you'll start to believe your won bullshit, which is what being confident is all about.

	14-07-2003 00:25									#5
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quote: If I knew how to be confident, I'd be confident already.

So true . Catch 22, eh?

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quote: Sociopath? I figured you were on a perpetual bad-acid trip at worst. But I don't think anyone here would call you a *sociopath*...

you don't know me in real life

	14-07-2003 05:31									#7
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The whole "confident" thing is just some buzz word that's been thrown around in the last 5 years. It's kinda silly really. Just pay attention to the latest commercials and you'll see it being thrown around many times.

Chegitz actually has pretty good advice.

A more true approach is to find something you are good at and enjoy doing it and don't make apologies to anyone for it.

	14-07-2003 05:35									#8
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Fix an enigmatic smile on your face at all times.

Remember that nothing (mostly) you say or do matters to anyone for more than about 5 minutes following it.

Pretend that everyone looking at you is in fact respectfully gazing at you in awe and wonderment.

	14-07-2003 05:44									#9
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Why do so many people hate Sava? I think he's great and easily has the best avatars on Poly?

	14-07-2003 06:26									#10
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alcohol usually does the trick for me

	14-07-2003 06:33									#12
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alcohol does work. the problem is it can be difficult to be drunk all the time . Well difficult for me. Some people can do it.

In fact, I have vowed to drink a few beers before every date now. I figure it's better they think I'm an alcoholic, instead of some shy nerd with no confidence

	14-07-2003 06:37									#13
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quote: Originally posted by Dissident People say this all the time. They say "be confident". Well how in the hell do you be confident? If I knew how to be confident, I'd be confident already. I hear heroin instills its users with confidence. But I don't like needles. I don't like drugs either.

You can snort, smoke, or put heroin under your tongue. If you want an illicit social confidence drug, however - cocaine or MDMA

If you want a legit social confidence drug? Look into SSRIs. In most other (and in combintion) cases , confidence comes in time - so you have to stick out the nervousness and try again for as many years as it takes.

That's the truth!

	14-07-2003 06:46									#14
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quote: Originally posted by Dissident alcohol does work. the problem is it can be difficult to be drunk all the time . Well difficult for me. Some people can do it. In fact, I have vowed to drink a few beers before every date now. I figure it's better they think I'm an alcoholic, instead of some shy nerd with no confidence

unless you plan on making 8 figures anytime soon, yes

	14-07-2003 07:07									#15
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quote: Originally posted by Agathon Why do so many people hate Sava? I think he's great and easily has the best avatars on Poly?

I don't HATE him; it's just that, if you think Jesus and Dubya are conspiring to kill you all the time, you have issues. But he's a very likable nut. Yay, Sava.
Also, he doesn't seem to take it personally, does he?

	14-07-2003 07:19									#16
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IMO, drugs don't make you more confident -- they just f*ck up your brain and bam, before you know it you're an addict.

As you succeed in more things in life, you build up more confidence. The things that I have worked at, and have become good at, have helped me build up my confidence.
And when your friends and family notice and affirm your good qualities in you, you build up more confidence about yourself.

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Ya don't surround yourself with haters

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quote: Originally posted by Ted Striker Ya don't surround yourself with haters

surround yourself with loves

	14-07-2003 07:48									#19
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I whish i could transfer my confidence in a few things I do to general confidence in all I do, but this has failed miserably.

	14-07-2003 07:58									#20
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I hear you. I am confident about a few things. mainly involving working and my intellect. But I can't transfer that into confidence with women. strange

	14-07-2003 08:25									#21
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The people who are the most confident are usually BS ers. Practice being full of it. Or join a profession that women or men ( what ever your preference may be) flock to. Uniformed people tend to gather more attention Police, Firemen,.......etc.

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	14-07-2003 08:28									#22
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quote: Originally posted by Dissident People say this all the time. They say "be confident". Well how in the hell do you be confident? If I knew how to be confident, I'd be confident already.

U appear to be confident here in the forums. Take that with you to the outside world. A friend once told me Babe Ruth hit a bunch of homeruns...but he also struck out a bunch too....If U dont take a chance you will never hit a Homerun

	14-07-2003 08:59									#23
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For those that are wondering... YES, MANY posts are missing... They were deleted. If it continues, I will start deleting the posters as well

	14-07-2003 09:02									#24
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quote: Originally posted by Ming For those that are wondering... YES, MANY posts are missing... They were deleted. If it continues, I will start deleting the posters as well

I hope I didn't start that, I was trying to be nice.

	14-07-2003 09:06									#25
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Be honest with yourself. When you **** up, it's a lesson, and when you do good, give yourself a pat on the back.

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quote: I don't HATE him; it's just that, if you think Jesus and Dubya are conspiring to kill you all the time, you have issues. But he's a very likable nut. Yay, Sava. Also, he doesn't seem to take it personally, does he?

haha it seems as if you make the mistake of taking me too seriously...

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quote: Originally posted by Ming For those that are wondering... YES, MANY posts are missing... They were deleted. If it continues, I will start deleting the posters as well

what posts are missing I don't see anything different. Unless a whole bunch of posts were made after my last one.

	14-07-2003 14:46									#29
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Confidence is knowing that you can tackle problems and overcome obstacles.

If you want to gain confidence, become a volunteer for a humanitarian or environmental organisation. Works like a charm.

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I can vouch for the 'confidence-inspiring' effects of ETOH. I've seen secretaries at happy hour in LA channelling the spirit of Michael Bolton or Barry Manilow after a pitcher of margaritas, and if that isn't some 'liquid courage', then alcohol affects the inner ear in a way that makes cacophony sound like opera.

BTW: Dubya IS trying to kill you, he just doesn't have your cave address.