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Pekka
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em seu burro dos pais!
Feb 2002
time: 07:29
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I'm revealing something very personal, so I hope you don't bash me or take advantage of this in any way, or I'll have to hunt you down and terminate you.
I was asking about my roots, because suddenly I felt a great interest about it. I never really cared, but now I do. I was a bit shocked what I found out. From my mothers side people are pretty succesful, having had high positions on good jobs. Few artists, actually two dancers in the early 1900's, one danced in Paris for some hot shot high class place, and one in... I forget but some other European dancing place, so few artists too.
This was quite nice to find out. Even few cops! My grandfathers dad died fighting the illegal bootleggers during the prohibition. Sad story, however very interesting.
But then to my fathers side... oh man every single man was a criminal of some sort and drunk bastards. Horrible stories most of them, and they have all ended in grave before their time was up. Either drank themselves to death, or some other unfortunate thing happened. Many of them has speant great deal of time in jail too, which is rare here (note: none of these dudes haven't been alive for decades). I've always wondered, why I'm so close to the family in my mothers side.. we're like a big close family. But to my fathers side.. never. And when they meet, they never talk about past times, never. I realized, that my dad hasn't told me much of his past.
But I'm starting to understand... there were several brothers, and they had a very strict home and parents being very religional. I'm sorry if this is boring the hell out of you, stop reading if you don't care  .
But their daddy was a maniac drunk guy. I heard this from my mother, no one has ever talked about it. My father is one of the oldest, and when he was 19, they grouped and kicked the crap out of him, and drove him away from his own home. It was a serious thing, and it happened I THINK in the 50's, so it was a big deal to drive the master out of his own house and kick his ass seriously. But he was abusive drunk, dangerous individual who certainly made a negative impact to the whole family. Anyway, then to the brothers. Half of them are weird drunks with problems. Half of them don't even touch alcohol and have a good life now. My dad is in the sober group. He never was into alcohol, for reasons that you get. But then just today, I found out, that my only male cousin from my fathers side is in trouble. He's always been, but now he was arrested with a gun posession and several other serious things. He was messing with drugs too much and got himself into trouble. Then his dad died, when he fell head first when drunk. He was a total drunkard. So, the genes were no better with my cousin. I don't really know him, only seen him few times in my whole life. I was told though, that he'll be dead in few years if he continues, and no one is able to stop him. Even threatened few of my relatives lives when they tried to intervene, and he really meant it too.
So, I guess this concludes my family introduction. So, how is it possible, that my other side (which I'm close with) is full of successful people, artists, cops etc? and other side is full of criminals and drunks? Are some folks just destined to fail and lose in the game called life?
Also, few of these relatives from my fathers side has never met that I know of, or known each other at all, still drunk and criminal too. Maybe some of them were shooting the border ranger from my familiys other side. Would be kind of ironic.
Crap this got long and uninteresting. Well, answer my question, and you can give some info on your roots and family info? I was genuinely wondering how this is possible!
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Ecthy
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Zhonghuà Rénmín Gònghéguó
Mar 2000
time: 06:29
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mix of genes and environment. a bit like gayness.
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Cruddy
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I would say most people make their own destiny.
If you believe your are a failure, there's no hope etc, then it's true for you. If you don't believe that crap and spend every effort to raise yourself, you will. Not by much... but water naturally flows downhill, so it takes a lot of work just to stay on the level.
As for my family, mostly a quiet, respectable if humble bunch. OK, paternal grandfather was apparently a drunk who walked out early in the marriage - as I never met him, I doubt I missed much.
Immediate family were all introduced to alcohol at an early age (Christmas's and special occasions only) so it wasn't really the fixation that many young Brits find it. As for drugs or violence, I did a fair bit of the former, but at least never injected - I had that much self respect at least. Violence for me is "self defence versus a superiority of numbers". I NEVER pick on individuals unless they are bigger gorrillas than I am and causing trouble.
As for how my family ended up; eldest brother did a Sociology degree and worked with abused children for about 18 years. Burned out now, he's an IT trainer.
2nd oldest brother released 2 albums, worked on several low budget movies, written dozens of scripts, finally did a Drama degree and now teaches.
Oldest sister has recently qualified, going for her Master's I believe, and is a succesful career saleswoman after a rocky divorce.
My nearest sister is happily married, with 2 kids.
And I'm studying for an IT degree, after a wild time partying in my 20s and early 30s.
This genetics thing is bullshit, if my family is anything to go by.
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