05-10-2003 09:15									#1
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Jealousy

quote: Main Entry: jeal·ou·sy Pronunciation: 'je-l&-sE Function: noun Inflected Form(s): plural -sies Date: 13th century 1 : a jealous disposition, attitude, or feeling 2 : zealous vigilance

When does being protective of a special someone crosses the line to become "zealous vigilance?"

	05-10-2003 09:34									#2
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when you start going into the public bathroom w/ her?

I dunno. Im not the jealous type cause Im so confident(or full of it) w/ myself type.

	05-10-2003 10:14									#3
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger Jealousy When does being protective of a special someone crosses the line to become "zealous vigilance?"

Isn't this the "special someone" who could kick your and my asses into next week?

What's to "protect?" (besides the "protector?")

The basic answer is when you start attempting to deny the other person their own choices and freedom to act as they see fit, based on whether or not you'd approve of such act.

Regardless of your relationship, another person who is a mentally competent adult has the right to do all sorts of things you might disapprove of. You can make your feelings on different issues known, but once you start trying to actively steer the other persons actions or interactions, then you're skating right over the line.

	05-10-2003 13:25									#4
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quote: Originally posted by MichaeltheGreat Isn't this the "special someone" who could kick your and my asses into next week?

That's not that question, Michael

quote: Originally posted by MichaeltheGreat You can make your feelings on different issues known, but once you start trying to actively steer the other persons actions or interactions, then you're skating right over the line.

What I am not sure about is this "steering" part. I think it's okay if a person tries to reason his SO of doing something he considers to be stupid or dangerous. Emotional blackmail is not okay. Where is the line?

	05-10-2003 14:29									#5
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There are no rules. When your Jealousy gets too annoying to your partner, he will kick you out. Where exactly the end-of-tolerance line is in your relationship, is for you to find out (or better not....)

	07-10-2003 09:34									#6
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger That's not that question, Michael What I am not sure about is this "steering" part. I think it's okay if a person tries to reason his SO of doing something he considers to be stupid or dangerous. Emotional blackmail is not okay. Where is the line?

I think you answer your own question. The line is crossed when you steer them for selfish reasons rather than out of concern or best interest.

	07-10-2003 09:56									#7
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when you start 6 threads on apolyton about her

	07-10-2003 10:00									#8
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If you're upset that your SO is seeing other people, or might be, and there is no good reason, that's jealousy (more or less).

FE, if you really think SO might be hurt by said other, that's a good reason.

If you think you'll lose some control over SO, that's jealousy.

Anyway, if you're the jealous one, you probably won't make a rationale assessment of which is which. You've had a LOT of threads in a similar vein lately, UR, what's going on?

	07-10-2003 10:01									#9
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let the actress go...

	08-10-2003 12:34									#10
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BC: Thanks, that's what I have been thinking

Ted: October is here, you should sense the dread already.

Theben: I am fine comrade. It's autumn and absence of my SO that did it.

	08-10-2003 12:43									#11
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So why the question?

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Damn, Ranger!

	08-10-2003 14:42									#13
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I think it's a good song, not Natalie Merchant's best by any means.

	08-10-2003 14:43									#14
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UR, release yourself...

	08-10-2003 19:30									#15
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Azazel,

quote: Originally posted by Theben So why the question?

I think about strange things when I am alone at night.

	08-10-2003 20:26									#16
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That explains so much...

	08-10-2003 20:26									#17
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Your relationship threads, though more subtle, are getting to Speeresque proportions, UR.

	08-10-2003 20:42									#18
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quote: Originally posted by Azazel Your relationship threads, though more subtle, are getting to Speeresque proportions, UR.

Sorry

	08-10-2003 21:10									#19
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You don't have to apologize to me. You seem to be very bothered by something.

	08-10-2003 22:06									#20
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Well yeah, I guess it is a bunch of things. The big thing is I ceased to have a job some time ago, and I haven't been able to find a new one in a few months. Some of my IT buddies facing the same situation isn't really a consolation.

	08-10-2003 22:11									#21
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Zealous vigor? Yeah, rarely do I see such with SOs, but people are jealous of other people in such away that causes them to go to extremes... Take these examples (whether they are true or not) to define how the word is use...

Terrorists are JEALOUS of Western Economies
ALF is JEALOUS of people who own Hummers
Poor people are JEALOUS of people with money
Wage Labor is JEALOUS of those on salary

etc, etc...

[sing]I got some ice cream - and you don't have none - because your parents - are on welfare[/sing]

Then the little bastard dropped it!

	08-10-2003 22:13									#22
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger Well yeah, I guess it is a bunch of things. The big thing is I ceased to have a job some time ago, and I haven't been able to find a new one in a few months. Some of my IT buddies facing the same situation isn't really a consolation.

Yeah, well, that's the status of things in IT, sadly.