03-05-2005 19:48									#1
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and the more i think about this, the more ideas i get and want to use. so as a last resort to hopefully settle my restless mind on this subject, i ask for your advice apolyton.

i am going to ask my girlfriend to marry me.

at first i wanted to doso in front of friends and family, but that would add undue pressure. then i wanted something private and just me and her, traditional style. then i thought of the trick presentation of the ring option, and now i'm all sorts of confused.

help me.

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	03-05-2005 19:53									#2
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damn where did you get that ring?....but i would say go for the traditional on one knees do you want to marry me with ring in one hand thingy

	03-05-2005 19:53									#3
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Good luck mate!!



EDIT: Keep it simple, real life is not a tv show...

	03-05-2005 19:54									#4
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oh yes and ofcourse good luck

	03-05-2005 19:54									#5
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ebay, actually. it's a modest tenth of a carat for the diamond, but i like style of the ring. it's a vintage piece from the forties in fourteen karat white gold.

	03-05-2005 19:58									#6
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oh so the diamond is inlarged? i though this was true size ...pretty nice ring:

but ok again the advice:

dont do the infront of a lot of people thing...like you said pressure

surprise with putting ring somewhere always fun but a bit overdone in like every movie there is

the traditional way of proposing makes you look mature and she might forget about you being on poly that much and loving civ when she is thinking of an answer

	03-05-2005 20:01									#7
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actually, my poly and civ habit is negligible when compared to my wargaming habit. i'm more waiting for some of the married codgers to relate some anecdotes, though.

	03-05-2005 20:22									#8
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I just did a very simple proposal, but timed it so that we were in Bermuda and I scoped out a really romantic spot to do it before hand. I didn't get down on one knee, and certainly didn't do it in front of anyone else, but that's just us - neither of us would have gone for some cheesy public proposal.

Good luck!

	03-05-2005 20:22									#9
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I thought you knew better, sb

	03-05-2005 20:34									#10
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you two haven't been together all that long have you?

anyway,

if it's right it's right

	03-05-2005 21:25									#11
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Put the ring on, turn invisible, and then take it off and propose! Her acceptance will save you from Sauron's dark power!
Seriously, just ask her on her own. If she's from "that kind" of culture, then ask her father/parents first, but don't ask her while they're present. And good luck!

	03-05-2005 21:28									#12
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I agree with duke, keep it private

what if she says no? the you'll be all embaressed and we'd laugh at you twice as much

	03-05-2005 21:30									#13
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it's been a year, japher. hard to believe that it's only been a year, and yet it seems like we've always been together. her parent's blessings don't reall factor into this. she doesn't really like them, and is the black sheep of the family.

	03-05-2005 21:36									#14
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Do it in private, don't put pressure on her or risk public humiliation.

	03-05-2005 21:45									#15
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Do it in front of one of those big TVs at the mall, you know the one with the camera showing people walking by... Anyway, position yourself and your gf so you both fill the screen. Get down on one knee and present the ring...ask for her hand.

If she laughs in your face and rejects you, ripping out your heart and dashing it to the ground, stomping it with great glee, just point at the camera and say, "honey, you've been PUNKED!"

Works everytime.

	03-05-2005 22:09									#16
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Now the important question, why is self-biased giving us the finger?

	03-05-2005 22:22									#17
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he must have been intercepting my PMs

	03-05-2005 22:43									#18
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because i can?

	03-05-2005 23:43									#19
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Direct her, accidently on purpose, to 'poly.

She'll find this post and subtley try to give hints as to whether marriage is a realistic possibility or the last thing on her mind. And probably drop hints on her 'ideal' proposal. Remember to act oblivious - remember, you never intended for her to read this thread really.

Then you can guaruntee it'll be what she wants.

	03-05-2005 23:53									#20
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too geeky, but I like the accidental play

pick her up for dinner, and then tell her you left your wallet at home so you have to go back and get it... When you get back there should be a candel light diner for two awaiting the spotless, and grown-up looking, non geekish apartment...

oh yeah, prepare a meal that can be served by candel light without looking corney... and can keep for a time...

then have diner, then before desert, go to the fridge saying something like "I gotta go to the fridge, man, I gotta go", and she'll be all "why you sexy beast", and you go "because that's where I keep the ice, duh!"

So now she's all thinking that you got a ring (because she's ghetto too and knows ice is slang for stolen diamonds).

Come back with your hands behind your back, and get on your knees in front of her, and ask


"Honey... what would you do for a klondike bar?!"

Bammoo! Give her the klondike. Then she'll rip open the chocolately ice cream bar looking for the ring, and when she's all messy bring out the ring and ask her...

I am the love god!

Edit: oh, and she's going to want to jump your bones right then, which is convienent that you are alone at your place without any parents around what so ever...

	03-05-2005 23:58									#21
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I agree, its far too geeky. There may have been an element of sarcasm in my post but I'm not sure these days.

On no account should you ever let your gf read things you have written about her on internet forums. Ever.

	03-05-2005 23:59									#22
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quote: On no account should you ever let your gf read things you have written about her on internet forums. Ever

That oughta be a warning, posted at the top of each forum on all the internet

What would my wife do if she found out about my man crushes!!!?

	04-05-2005 00:01									#23
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Good luck

As far as the ring is concerned - Ebay

Everyone should have it their own way, and I have no idea was jewelry from a store costs, but I would try and make it new-made AND unique. but than that's probably unaffordable.

	04-05-2005 00:10									#24
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quote: Originally posted by Ecthelion Everyone should have it their own way, and I have no idea was jewelry from a store costs, but I would try and make it new-made AND unique. but than that's probably unaffordable.

Not really, you just need to know where to go. I had my ring custom made and bought the diamond wholesale - far better value for the money that way. Any number of decent craftsmen can make a setting to your specifications for a reasonable amount. At the end of the day, almost all the value is in the stone anyway.

	04-05-2005 00:13									#25
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not if there's fancy silver stuff around it as I recall seeing it on edgecrusher's (bah to newbies!).

anyway edge - apart from me being picky about "inner values" it looks just fine

	04-05-2005 00:18									#26
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quote: Originally posted by Verres On no account should you ever let your gf read things you have written about her on internet forums. Ever.

Would that be the voice of experience?

	04-05-2005 00:19									#27
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I got my wife's ring of stip in Vegas

My sister and cousin scouted it out for me and even negotiated the price down with the wholesaler...*

$2400, has been appraised for $5000!

Her wedding ring was much nicer, as I actually had money at that time.

My own ring cost $300

	04-05-2005 00:31									#28
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quote: Originally posted by self biased actually, my poly and civ habit is negligible when compared to my wargaming habit. i'm more waiting for some of the married codgers to relate some anecdotes, though.

Ok, anecdotes.

We were in Jamacia. It was a beautiful cloudless night, but the moon was no where to be seen. We are wlking hand in hand on the beach with the ocean waves in the back ground. I'm all nervous (It is VERY nerve wracking, even if you know what the answer is going to be), but I decide, this is it. I do it now! She says (before I start to talk) "All this seaweed stinks!" and she runs back towards the resort.

I'm like, fine. I'll do this somewhere else, but I will do it tonight!

We start to walk along a secluded path in this very romantic resort. We find a hammock and lay down together in it. I'm thinking this is perfect. Starry night, quiet and secluded. Very romantic. I swing off the hammock and onto my knee. She looks at me and says "Oh man! I have got to go to the bathroom!" Gets up and takes off for our room.

I am undaunted. I WILL ask her tonight!

Now that we were back at the room, we change into our swimsuits for a nighttime swim. We head for the pool, and leisurely play and frolic. Just the two of us. Not a sole around. As were playing, I lead us toward the poolside bar (its closed) and set her on one of the stools facing me. This is it! I drop to one knee with the water from the pool up to about my chest and it up to her waist as she is sitting on the stool. I look up at her and... she says "I'm cold!" dives in and swims away.

AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!

I chase her down and get her to face me, with just her head above water so she would stay warm. I tell her "You make me happy, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you." I pull the ring up (which I had placed on my little finger) and I ask "Will you marry me?" She screams "YES!" and I place the ring on her finger.

	04-05-2005 00:35									#29
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quote: Originally posted by Donegeal It is VERY nerve wracking, even if you know what the answer is going to be

I'll second that. My heart was absolutely racing, even though I knew there was no way she was going to say no.

	04-05-2005 00:45									#30
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quote: Originally posted by Spiffor Would that be the voice of experience?

Indeedy.

The internet is a big place, but not big enough for 2 people who are in a relationship.