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ajbera
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of the Cookieville Minimum Security Orphanarium
Apr 1999
time: 05:36
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Originally posted by Skywise
Pekka, you disappoint me very much....Dont make up silly high school plans like that to meet a girl that is/was your friend.
Simple, call her up, tell her that you were thinking about her and thought "Hey, I should call her" so you did and then tell her you'd like to go and have a drink with her. If she says yes, half the work is done cuz you know shes atleast "interested" in seeing you and you dont have old friends keeping you from talking to her all night and playing yo game. If she says no, no time waisted with old friends you dont really want to see again, cuz if you did, you would have called them a while ago.
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Really Pekka, if she's that important to you, don't fvck around. Just give it a shot. I cannot stress this enough. I know you're scared; get past it. JUST DO IT.
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Pekka
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em seu burro dos pais!
Feb 2002
time: 07:36
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No you didn't hit my ego. You are just not telling me anything new and it turns the knife in my heart.
Girls are not cryptonite to me, but this particular girl is definitely me achilles heel. I will call her. Yes I will. I just need to get over making up things to worry and call.. I just try to prepare, get more things done, make myself better etc, but I know that way I'll never call. There will be a point where I need to say screw it and just call, I'm now good enough already. good enough meaning that I can say I did my best, it didn't work out. That's acceptable. But even if it doesn't work out for simple reasons, I will blame myself for not being the best I was getting in it. Kind of like going ot the Olympics, I want to k now I did everything as best as I knew how and gave my all, if I finish last, then it's OK. But if I finish second, and I didn't push it all the way, I'll beat myself fo rthe rest of my life.
It's only head games now. I'm a worrier by nature anyway, so I know there always will be worries I just need to cut the act and call at some point, preferrably sooner than later.
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Pekka
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em seu burro dos pais!
Feb 2002
time: 07:36
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laurentius, uh that's a better idea. I've been thinking my opening line, give the reason why I called. So.. but that's actually a good one. Yeah.. I might use that 
No no it's not that if I .. like I said. I, ME, needs to feel good about myself when I go for it. I feel good about myself already people, ok, but I am kind of strict how I should appear and go on about with life. Why do you think I'm obsessed with gyms and nutrition and stuff, yes I like healthy and the way it feels. But also because I'm worried about my appearance. And I KNOW I'm a handsome bastard too, but I have high self critique. I always feel like I'm failing even though I'd be the first. Before I hear I was first that is . I have weird mindset. When I win 3 euros in poker slot, I feel like I lost 17 euros, if I didn't play with maximum bet. That's how my brain works. I see failure faster than victory, but I always go for victory. The road there, for me, is to be extremely careful and see every step and think outside the box and see what are the things that can go wrong and then counter them before they happen. Risk managment. That's my life, risk managment.
So I'm getting stuck with the possible points of failure, even though I know logically, that these little things won't simply matter at all. I know it. So why won't I just get over that? The worry wins the fact? It's not said and done, I'm battling it and I'll win. And I'll call her.
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Pekka
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em seu burro dos pais!
Feb 2002
time: 07:36
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Well I feel like defending it anyway . Ok. What you say you think happened is not true. We were a group of 4 people ok, consisting of her, her boyfriend (also my good friend), and another girl. We spent about 3-4 years in exclusive friendship , if there is such thing. I think it just wasn't some girl who never talked to me. Besides, as far as talking goes, she told me things that no one would tell another person unless they were close. And she knew I had a bad crush on her. Because she told me and I got embarrased. She liked making me embarrased because I was the kind of shameless person who would rarely go embarrased about anything so she liked to see me blush. Sadistic like that . But she also told me she fancies me from time to time. OK, I'm not going to explain why I really liked her and why we were good friends in real life and why I know there was some attraction going on for a long time, take it or don't. all I say is that from the age of 16 to the age of 19-20, we were tight bunch. The 4 of us. I never made any real moves, because then I woudl have betrayed my friend, which is a big no no. I'd rather go with the what ifs than betrayal and disloyalty.
And it was 2 years ago that I head the had broken up. Little after I accidentally saw them in a bar. Now. That created a problem in my head, I didn't watn to call her right away because that would equal the betrayal in my book, even though it wouldn't be kind of. So I figured I'd wait a while, maybe few months or so and THEN call. Let the dust settle. Make it my time now. But then, it's one of those things that builds up on and it's more and more difficult to do every time the time goes on. That's what happened and is happening. I haven't wasted 7 (or to be exact, 9) years, because the opportunity came 2 years ago. I have wasted 2 years. And it's been stupid, because 2 years ago I moved to Turku! To another city all together.. I do realize that all you are correct, I need to call, but I'm just worrying too much about stuff. I will call.. but I certianly haven't wasted 9 years, and I certainly haven't been illusioned of some pretty girl who once talked to me. I had no girl problems in school.
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03-06-2005 18:23
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