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nostromo
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Montréal, Québec
Mar 2002
time: 00:35
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Originally posted by Alex
June 12th is Valentine's Day here in Brazil. (yeah, I know...)
And suddenly I feel horribly awkward and displaced because I don't have a girlfriend. Since I divorced my wife I've been alone. I mean, really alone. So alone that it hurts.
Why can't I find a girlfriend? I'm not an ugly guy (some people even say that I'm good-looking and attractive). I'm not unemployed. I'm not a nerd who spends all of his free time in front of the computer playing Civ (well, just a little  ). I like to go out with friends.
So, what's wrong with me?  |
My guess is that you lost the hang of the dating game. It happens often to people who were married for a while: they loose the touch. When they get divorced, they're completely lost. I'm willing to bet that you didn't have that problem before you met your wife. So my advice is to break the ice, with the first cute girl you meet. She doesn't have to be the one. Like my father likes to say, you don't have to marry her  And don't make the error of commiting yourself too fast... You sound like one of my friends. He can't stand solitude. If he ****s a girls, almost any girl, he'll ask her to be his girlfriend.  The doctor prescribes lots and lots of meaningless, wild sexual encounters.
Last edited by nostromo on 09-06-2005 at 00:01
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Flubber
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With a view of the Rockies
Aug 2000
time: 22:35
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Originally posted by Kidicious
Do you hit on chicks? My divorce isn't final, but I haven't hit on any women yet. My goal is to hit on many more women this time around. Even if I'm not that attracted to them I'm going to hit on them just for practice. |
Actually good advice. Flirt with anyone where it seems appropriate. Positive feedback even from women you would not want to date is still a bit of a high.
Whatever you do . . . ask some women out !!! If you don't want to be alone, assess how many women you asked out in the last month. If its not five or six you are not even really trying and it would take at least ten before I thought you were serious.
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Flubber
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With a view of the Rockies
Aug 2000
time: 22:35
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Originally posted by Kidicious
I have to say that I disagree with going to strip clubs and seeing prostitutes. That never boosts my ego. Sure they act like they want you but it's obvious they only want your money. Nothing could be worse for the ego. |
kid what's happening?? I agree with you again. (Quick say something commie-like so I can oppose you )
I find strip clubs to feel tawdry and obvious and I imagine a prostitute would be the same.
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Jon Miller
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I know that part of my problem is that 'I haven't tried hard enough'
I think I have asked less then 10 girls out, in my life... (there are others I would have asked out, but they expressed disinterest in me before I got up the guts to ask them out)
but I disagree with 'we all need sex' view of dating
while I really want sex, I wouldn't/don't want to be touched by someone who I didn't know real well and like..
Jon Miller
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Flubber
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With a view of the Rockies
Aug 2000
time: 22:35
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Originally posted by Jon Miller
I know that part of my problem is that 'I haven't tried hard enough'
I think I have asked less then 10 girls out, in my life... (there are others I would have asked out, but they expressed disinterest in me before I got up the guts to ask them out)
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Well the 10 number was in the context of someone that is sounding depressed about being alone and not dating. (and also assumes some lack of success since if the first 3 girls say yes that alone would keep you busy)
I had times in my life that I WANTED to be single so I asked no one out. At other times I wanted to be dating so I pretty much asked anyone I found moderately interesting.
If you get some basic info before hand like making sure she's single and hetero, the success rate is pretty good. Most women are approached by so very many jerks that they are willing to give a decent guy a chance
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Originally posted by Jon Miller
but I disagree with 'we all need sex' view of dating
while I really want sex, I wouldn't/don't want to be touched by someone who I didn't know real well and like..
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I also disagree that we all need sex (at least in the short term).
I don't think I have ever had sex with someone that I did not at least like and I have never had sex with any person only once. When I think back I see that as a little suprising but I guess its becasue I wasn't a one night stand kind of guy
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