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loinburger
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Sweet Sauce Jones
Jul 1999
time: 00:18
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My first relationship lasted about four days, my second lasted about a week, my third lasted about a week, my fourth lasted about three days, my fifth lasted about two days, and my sixth and most recent relationship lasted about two weeks. They don't call me the Lady's Man for nothing... 
I can't really empathize with you too well, seeing as how your one relationship lasted over three times longer than all six of mine combined; I didn't exactly have a hefty emotional attachment in mine, and in most cases I didn't have any emotional attachment. The "withdrawal" phase you're describing either lasted a matter of hours, or was completely absent.
However, I'm familiar with several people who were emotionally attached to their first loves, most notable being my brother (who dated his first love for four years). The thing that I learned from them is that if you're breaking up, break up, for chrissakes, and don't dance around your new relationship status as single people. My brother broke up with his first girlfriend several times over their four year relationship, but they'd always get back together because they were basically addicted to the relationship. They felt like you do now: lazy, purposeless, and confused. Rather than move on with their lives in order to eliminate these unpleasant feelings, they regressed back into their doomed relationship.
The thing that finally broke my brother from the habit was finding someone new; not a fling (he'd usually have a couple of those after one of his breakups), but a new honest-to-god relationship. Of course, me as Mr. "emotional detachment" could call this "replacing one addiction with another" (it isn't in this case, since she is truly a fantastic girlfriend/fiancee and not just a "fix" for his addiction), and in fact I've got a friend who used to go from one "serious" relationship to another because, basically, he was addicted to relationships.
I dunno what you should do to get some purpose back, since I've never been in anything close to your situation. My addict brother got damn lucky that his new "fix" was a fantastic person, and in general I wouldn't recommend using a new relationship as a cure to the doldrums that are brought on by the old one. I'd also strongly counsel against getting back together with your old girlfriend, as it's a bad habit to get into; either break up with her or don't, and avoid the "seeing other people for a few days/weeks" trap. My addict friend was eventually cured of his addiction by hanging out with me too much and developing some of my emotional detachment as a result, but something inside me mourns that loss; one loinburger is enough.
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devilmunchkin
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first circle of the inferno
Jul 2001
time: 05:18
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ahh..my first True love...
has never disappeared from my life. It tends to make..uh..new relations more difficult as neither of us can get to far from each other. i still love him. not sure if he retains the same sentiments...but he's always there..so i might assume....
but yes...our timing is horrible to ever reunite.
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12-04-2002 09:09
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