23-12-2002 13:36									#61
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its really nice to know you guys are there.
see its 130 am and im still awake
thanks for all the support and advise.

	23-12-2002 14:39									#62
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quote: Originally posted by boann well you can all answer this one question for me then why does a person cheat ? why do they if they say they don't love the other person? why would they risk everything for someone they don't love and say they still love the one they hurt? why would they do it over and over and still expect to be forgiven ? is it because society as a whole doesn't seem to think it matters and that its ok?

1. A person cheats because they feel that they can get away with it or if they get caught a few words will heal the wounds, they are selfish and inconsiderate of their spouse/ mate.
2. To them its just sex, so what the heck? They could care less or at least not enough of how it would make their partner feel.
3. Again they don't think that they will get caught.
4. Because you forgave him the last time, and he expects you to do it again.

This probably won't make you feel good right now, but the guy is a loser and you are better off alone than being with an ******* like that. Hope you stick to your guns and just let the bastard go. And If you are married, take him for everything he's worth, he deserves it.

	23-12-2002 18:56									#63
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quote: Originally posted by Mad Bomber And If you are married, take him for everything he's worth, he deserves it.

i agree with most everything you said.
yes we are married.
i don't believe in that attitude "take him for everything
hes worth"

one of my main driving forces is that my daughter is watching this whole senario and learning from it.
watching how i let men treat me . and also watching how i treat men. all my life i have tried to live in a way that reflects to do to other people how you would want them to do to you.

besides if im true to myself i could never do such a thing. it goes against everything i believe is right and fair. why should i bring myself down ?
and why should i change who i am morally to acquire some material gain in a manner that would eat away at my very soul and at the same time teach my daughter that material gain is our primary goal in life.

no , if i must walk away from it all to keep the peace ,
i would not hesitate .

but if he tries to take my daughter away... he will awaken a sleeping bear and i pity the man because
i will have no mercy.

	23-12-2002 23:16									#64
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Then you have 2 reasons not to take him back. For you daughter's sake.

And yes I agree it is not worth it to take him for everything he's worth. This is a modern day phenomena. It is only meant to hurt the other person and just creates more hatred and spite. Just don't let him screw you over for what is owed to you. You don't want your daughter to learn to divorce men for their money. And you also don't want your daughter to learn that it is acceptable for men to treat women this way.

It's worth it often to give someone a second chance. But not a third, and fourth. Even though he may be a nice person, he has no self control. Despite the fact he knows it hurts you he still cannot control himself.

You know what you have to do. We all support you.

I know being alone is tough. I'm sure it is tough the first few weeks, but it will get better. You've made it this far. The first few nights are the toughest. It will get easier.