05-11-2004 20:11									#121
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quote: Originally posted by Space05us quote: DC Crime?

Among other things.

	05-11-2004 20:12									#122
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quote: Originally posted by Lorizael Long distance relationships suck. How do you make them not suck?

Don't have them. This is accomplished by one of three things:

1. Breaking up.

2. One of you moving to the other.

3. Both of you leaving, settling in a totally new city.

Long distance relationships are untenable because you need the regular habit of having her in your life, and vice versa. Of such are true relationships made, not of will and desire, but of habit and regularity.

	05-11-2004 20:23									#123
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Don't have them. This is accomplished by one of three things: 1. Breaking up. 2. One of you moving to the other. 3. Both of you leaving, settling in a totally new city. Long distance relationships are untenable because you need the regular habit of having her in your life, and vice versa. Of such are true relationships made, not of will and desire, but of habit and regularity.

Thats for damn sure

	05-11-2004 20:25									#124
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quote: Originally posted by Tingkai JohnT, you still haven't answer this question! And why is Intel making socks. They're a computer company, not a clothing company. Or is there something special about the Intel sock? Is it a high-tech sock with a computer chip in it? Will it get lost in the wash?

I hope it has nothing to do with the infamous winsock.dll, which plagued millions of people. Just wtf was that thing anyway?

	05-11-2004 22:03									#125
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Don't have them. This is accomplished by one of three things: 1. Breaking up. 2. One of you moving to the other. 3. Both of you leaving, settling in a totally new city. Long distance relationships are untenable because you need the regular habit of having her in your life, and vice versa. Of such are true relationships made, not of will and desire, but of habit and regularity.

Well that's depressing. I would think the will bit should be the only part that truly matters.

Breaking up... uh... we don't really like that option. And moving is kind of out of the question; we're both poor.

	05-11-2004 22:09									#126
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The will part is exhibited in your efforts to be close to her. If you don't go through the effort, the will isn't there, despite your protestations to the contrary.

	05-11-2004 23:26									#127
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What possible options do I have to make a little extra money on the side without having to report it and without taking up too much of my time? If I report it I lose out on some financial aid, and if it takes up too much time my grades at the university will suffer. I have ~13,000 capital to start out with, but I doubt I can afford to risk much more then a fraction of that. I also know alot from many subjects but can't be considered an "expert" in any field.

	05-11-2004 23:33									#128
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How much do want and how often?

	05-11-2004 23:36									#129
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quote: Originally posted by Thucydides What possible options do I have to make a little extra money on the side without having to report it and without taking up too much of my time? If I report it I lose out on some financial aid, and if it takes up too much time my grades at the university will suffer. I have ~13,000 capital to start out with, but I doubt I can afford to risk much more then a fraction of that. I also know alot from many subjects but can't be considered an "expert" in any field.

mow lawns, baby-sit, shovel snow-- any cash transaction business

My best job in school was as an assistant at a computer lab-- I could study while working but the income was reported

	05-11-2004 23:37									#130
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quote: Originally posted by Japher How much do want and how often?

Should be regular income, but how much doesn't matter. Obviously the more cash I get the better, but If I only get $50 more a month, that's $50/month extra buffer I have.

	05-11-2004 23:41									#131
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quote: Originally posted by Thucydides What possible options do I have to make a little extra money on the side without having to report it and without taking up too much of my time? If I report it I lose out on some financial aid, and if it takes up too much time my grades at the university will suffer. I have ~13,000 capital to start out with, but I doubt I can afford to risk much more then a fraction of that. I also know alot from many subjects but can't be considered an "expert" in any field.

I was gonna suggest pimping ,but I realized that I dont know you as a poster and thought you might misunderstand my intent.

	06-11-2004 00:07									#132
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quote: I was gonna suggest pimping ,but I realized that I dont know you as a poster and thought you might misunderstand my intent.

So that can somehow be taken in a good way?

Sink the 13k into a stock with a good quarterly dividend. Dividends are tax deducatable so you won't have to report it. Just make sure to get a stock with good fundamentals.

	06-11-2004 18:00									#133
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I thought it was pretty funny, actually.

	07-11-2004 03:24									#134
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quote: Originally posted by Space05us quote: Neither, but if those are your choices, than New Mexico. Well I guess we can toss D.C. in there too. My mom says one of my aunts would love to help me out. so new list: Barrow, Alaska Albuquerque, New Mexico D.C. Just a quick question, I know you say no to where I currently live because of weather, and many of the things Ive mentioned about it, but why no to NM?

DC easily

This is no contest

	07-11-2004 03:26									#135
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quote: Originally posted by Lorizael Well that's depressing. I would think the will bit should be the only part that truly matters.

Why? Can you "will" somebody into loving you? Can you "will" yourself into loving another, especially one who isn't around?

Would such a relationship even be healthy?

	07-11-2004 03:29									#136
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Well, the thing is, they may have started out with a connection where they already have feelings for each other

I have seen plenty of examples of long distance relationships working.

Maybe it's not about creating something that isn't there, but keeping something going that's already established.

It's more like watering a plant everyday to keep it lush and green rathar than trying to plant a seed that may or may not grow.

	07-11-2004 03:33									#137
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For long? Or "for the duration"?

	07-11-2004 03:34									#138
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Both.

I know a few married couples, including family.

	07-11-2004 03:38									#139
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Married is a bit different, as there is a history there. Especially with a family involved as you now have a morass of legal obligations on top of the emotional ones.

Not knowing Lorizeal's situation, I did the best with what I got. However, if this relationship is relatively new... or even if it's an "old" one, with the separation brought about by a change in life (they went to different colleges), the best thing to do is... let it go.

	07-11-2004 04:43									#140
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Yeah, I agree with JohnT on this one.

It's hard to keep a long distance relationship going, and even if you put the effort in, it can still not work out.

It helps if you are both low maintenance, but you still need to be talking to each other on a regular basis, and keeping in touch with each other's lives.

	07-11-2004 04:50									#141
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Married is a bit different, as there is a history there. Especially with a family involved as you now have a morass of legal obligations on top of the emotional ones.

Well actually the situations I am thinking of, the couples met, spent some time together, in two cases a very short period of time, where sparks flew, and then they kept the relationship going and eventually got married.

I think sometimes people are too pragmatic to the point where it gets to the point where they look for reasons to talk themselves out of something.

The people I know just kept it going, despite the naysayers.

	07-11-2004 10:42									#142
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Again, this all depends upon the relationship. When I'm thinking of this issue, I'm thinking girlfriend, with no real thought given to a long-term (as in decades) relationship with each other. Lorizeal might be beyond that... maybe the lass has a ring on her finger, I don't know.

But... I don't think that rejecting a long-distance relationship is "talking themselves out of something." It's acceptance of the biological and psychological need to have somebody there, to talk to on the spur of the moment, to touch and be touched at both your heart's desires, to see, to smell, to hear.

A long-distance relationship doesn't fulfill those needs. Now, again, that's OK if the couple has a history behind them and a more-than-reasonable expectation that the long-distance part is going to end. But for a relatively new relationship with a foundation made of air and no thoughts further into the future than what's happening next weekend?

Naw, better to give it up.

	07-11-2004 10:45									#143
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I thought you righties were supposed to be optimistic.

	07-11-2004 10:47									#144
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Once burnt, twice shy.

	07-11-2004 10:51									#145
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quote: Originally posted by Ted Striker I thought you righties were supposed to be optimistic.

We are. I, for one, am quite positive that I know what it takes to make a long-term relationship work.

	07-11-2004 10:52									#146
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And so do I.

It's just a different version from yours.

But I have seen the examples firsthand.

	07-11-2004 10:52									#147
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I have lived mine.

	07-11-2004 10:53									#148
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Your personal experience does not dictate others' success.

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No, but it does offer a shining beacon of hope. For if I can do it, anybody can!

Actually, that's not true for I have always been Monogamy Man.

	07-11-2004 10:57									#150
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I'm always sleepy. What can I do?