24-11-2004 01:55									#61
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quote: Originally posted by bfg9000 What have you added to this thread? Prove me wrong. Teach us all something, please.. See, the thing is, I know what I'm talking about. It has taken a lot of trial and error in relationships to get to this point, but I'm convinced that I know what I'm talking about. If you all would stop piling on me and read my words of wisdom, you might learn something about women that you didnt know before.

Whereas those of us with years of experience keeping the same woman happy (me, Ming) don't know what we're talking about?

	24-11-2004 03:03									#62
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quote: Originally posted by bfg9000 What have you added to this thread?

My usual mixture of opinions, factoids and personal attacks. What about you?

quote: Prove me wrong.

Technically, I wasn't saying you were wrong. I said you came across as an emotional crazy relying on anecdotal evidence. I stand by that statement.

quote: See, the thing is, I know what I'm talking about. It has taken a lot of trial and error in relationships to get to this point, but I'm convinced that I know what I'm talking about.

You don't seem to be convincing much anybody else.

quote: If you all would stop piling on me and read my words of wisdom, you might learn something about women that you didnt know before.

If you think I go to 'Poly to learn about women, you're in serious need of the better part of a pack of cards.

	24-11-2004 03:19									#63
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seriously though, women advice and apolyton is like oil and water.

	24-11-2004 15:12									#64
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quote: Originally posted by chegitz guevara I know you're FoS. You know in Arabic culture, men are considered the emotional and pationate ones, who get all weapy about a poem they just read in the newspaper, while women are considered cold and analytical.

Exactamundo.

	24-11-2004 15:28									#65
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Basically my view on this is as follows.

Are women emotional and irrational? - yes.

Are men? - yes.

Any man that thinks he isn't emotional and irrational doesn't know himself very well.

	24-11-2004 16:15									#66
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Try putting yourself in her shoes for a few minutes. Ask yourself why she asked you to move in? Why was she upset that you said no?

While this is total speculation, she may indeed want commitment from someone and this was her way of giving you a test.

	25-11-2004 04:04									#67
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger You recovered from your messy breakup quick

I wouldn't call over a year of depression "quick". But thats over with at least.

	25-11-2004 05:21									#68
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quote: Originally posted by Ned Try putting yourself in her shoes for a few minutes. Ask yourself why she asked you to move in? Why was she upset that you said no? While this is total speculation, she may indeed want commitment from someone and this was her way of giving you a test.

Perhaps, Ned, but I despise being tested to see where my feelings are. A girl who dare to test me gets a trip to DumpedVille.

	25-11-2004 05:26									#69
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Barinthus, you might really try putting yourself in a woman's shoes sometimes. They are almost all looking for Mr. Right. Almost all of them need to be reassured from time to time. This is normal.

	25-11-2004 05:32									#70
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:shrug: they need to find an alterative of being reassured as opposite to testing others.

Beside I wouldn't want to be with a woman whom is looking for 'Mr. Right.' It should just happen.

	25-11-2004 08:44									#71
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quote: Originally posted by Barinthus :shrug: they need to find an alterative of being reassured as opposite to testing others. Beside I wouldn't want to be with a woman whom is looking for 'Mr. Right.' It should just happen.

It's a bad sign that she wants a committment so soon into the relationship. In fact, I know exactly how something like this ends. It's best to go slow and both of you discover your feelings for each other instead of being given an either or proposition.

	25-11-2004 08:57									#72
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quote: Originally posted by Sprayber It's a bad sign that she wants a committment so soon into the relationship.

Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

	25-11-2004 09:02									#73
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

God forbid she take the time to actually get to know someone before moving in with them.

We are talking about 3 months here.

edit: At that rate they would be married at 6 and expecting parents at 8. Or perhaps the other way around

	25-11-2004 09:48									#74
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Sometimes it doesn't take three months. If you want it, you'll do it.

This just wasn't one of those times. But when it hits you, you know.

Sorry buddally.

	25-11-2004 09:49									#75
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psycho killer, run run run run away!

	25-11-2004 09:53									#76
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quote: Originally posted by MikeH Basically my view on this is as follows. Are women emotional and irrational? - yes. Are men? - yes. Any man that thinks he isn't emotional and irrational doesn't know himself very well.

I live my life like a Vulcan. Including having sex only once every 7 years. I live by rule of logic.

	25-11-2004 09:54									#77
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

you are kidding right. 3 months? That's hardly enough time to get to know someone. She could be a serial killer.

	25-11-2004 12:08									#78
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The voice of experience and desire so hath spoken...

	25-11-2004 12:11									#79
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Can I also join the pile on JohnT for making the stupid statement?

Asking to move in after 3 months is nothing to jump at. It really isn't a good sign when she sets her foot down at 3 months and says move in with me or I'm gone.

	25-11-2004 12:14									#80
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3 months?

I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

	25-11-2004 14:26									#81
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quote: Originally posted by Ben Kenobi 3 months? I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

That's a personal problem

	25-11-2004 14:29									#82
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quote: Originally posted by Ben Kenobi 3 months? I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

3 years would be a bit long if you ask me. A year seems about right to me

	25-11-2004 14:55									#83
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quote: Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui Can I also join the pile on JohnT for making the stupid statement? Asking to move in after 3 months is nothing to jump at. It really isn't a good sign when she sets her foot down at 3 months and says move in with me or I'm gone.

Why not, I'm going to also. John T may have had a good experience instantly attaching himself to his woman, but most people won't. This woman is obviously unstable. Her desire to move in so quickly isn't a deal breaker, but why if she is so desperately in love does she break up because he isn't willing to live with her? It's the same sort of "logic" arc that ends with "if you don't love me as much as I love you I'll kill you".

	25-11-2004 14:57									#84
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quote: Originally posted by Ned Barinthus, you might really try putting yourself in a woman's shoes sometimes.

Are you kidding? They are usually too small, uncomfortable, cheaply made and expensive.

	25-11-2004 15:00									#85
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I think 3 months is definately too soon to move in together. With her getting so upset because you wouldnt it leaves me to believe that she had other reasons for wanting you there besides just being in love. Could be that she is insecure and thinks that if you live with her your more hers? Or maybe it was a financial thing that was making her rush it. Doesnt really matter because she obviously wasnt the right person for you or else she wouldnt have broken up with you over this.

	25-11-2004 17:20									#86
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People...

Sometimes, "love at first sight" does happen. It's not very common, but it is not unknown. It happened to my grandparents, who eloped after knowing each other for 3 months... had to cross State lines (from West Virginia to Ohio) to be able to legally wed - she was 16 at the time, he was 18. 73 years later their marriage ended with the passing of my grandfather.

Every couple, every person is different. What might not be right for you is not necessarily wrong for others... so pile on me as you wish, but it is y'all are are denying the existence of a real phenomenon.

FWIW, Laura and I moved in together after 4 years so it's not like we followed my g'parents example.

	25-11-2004 18:57									#87
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

She obviously likes him so much that she left him over that issue. Or at least, she's blackmailing him.

Yep, looks like the kind of no-problem romance I'd advise to experience

	25-11-2004 19:49									#88
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I'm sorry... there's been some confusion here.

The "God Forbid" line was directed at Sprayber and his generalization, not to the situation at hand. Obviously in the OP's case there was nothing deeper than a need to have somebody share the rent/bed, something I made clear in my follow-up post.

	25-11-2004 20:06									#89
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quote: Originally posted by Dissident You need to know someone at least a year before moving in imho.

And this is based on your ''experience''?

Your are still figuring out how to talk to a girl.




Spec.

	25-11-2004 20:19									#90
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quote: Originally posted by JohnT The voice of experience and desire so hath spoken...

then you better restrict this thread to the other posters who aren't married.

So you know everything about women because you are married? I call bullshit.