01-02-2005 07:55									#121
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i dont know, i dont think about my ex more than once a month if that. it was totally out of no where and unexpected and i feel so bad about it

	01-02-2005 07:59									#122
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I guess you are still in lust with your ex.

	01-02-2005 08:07									#123
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quote: Saying the wrong name at the worst possible time just shows that who's on MRT's mind all that time.

A wise man told me that it doesn't pay to reveal your arousal fantasies to your partner. No good can come from it.

I would be very surprised if his girlfriend didn't do the same thing, but just kept quiet.

	01-02-2005 08:09									#124
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I suggest you spend more time groveling to your girl and less time talking to us for a while.

	01-02-2005 08:19									#125
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quote: Originally posted by Oerdin I suggest you spend more time groveling to your girl and less time talking to us for a while.

Never put the woman in the position of power in the relationship, lest you want to watch Hugh Grant movies exclusively for the rest of your life.

	01-02-2005 08:22									#126
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quote: Originally posted by Agathon I guess you are still in lust with your ex.

not really. she wasnt good in bed, didnt even want to have sex, and wasnt half as good looking as dacia

	01-02-2005 08:30									#127
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quote: Originally posted by Asher Never put the woman in the position of power in the relationship, lest you want to watch Hugh Grant movies exclusively for the rest of your life.

As a general rule, yes, but he has a huge debt to make up. That means he's going to have to break with convention.

	01-02-2005 11:41									#129
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quote: Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski Im sure that there a few women like my self that dont really care for the jewlery and in that case yes asher is right a cracker jack ring would do. Id prefer honesty and the admitance of the mistake. If it happened to me, a day or so of ass kissing wouldnt hurt either.

If it were to happen to me, I'd tease him everyday, till he BEG me to stop, and BEG to buy expensive jewlry for me so that I would stop talking about it.

And I'd say, "No, don't want jewels. I want Christina."

Seriously, there are so many occasions that we could make all kinds of mistakes in life. Buying jewlries for her may stuff her mouth for now, but it doesn't really erase the feeling from her heart. And you'd be worried that you'd do it again, and wouldn't be able to focus on the real thing when you make love to her again. It will have longer lasting effect than what you think.

The only way out of this, is for both of you to learn to treat things like this more light-heartedly. If you trust each other's love, then this is not going to mean anything. No matter what it is, habit, or lingering love, or whatever, if she chooses to stay with you, she has to accept its existence, and find a way to treat it so that she does not feel hurt whenever it happens.

The way to start this, is to treat her like a queen for a day or two after your guilty confession, and go all the way so that it is very exaggerated. Make breakfast for her. Massage her back when she is sitting. Sweet talk her. Using all kind of occassions to tell her how gorergeous she is. And when she shows if only a slight sign of easing off, go off with the joke route. "Come on baby don't be mad any more. yadayada more sweet talks. I promise the next time when we go to bed, I will never call Emmie's name again, I mean Christina...." She'd be MAD again, and ask who is Emmie. And you'd get your chance of playing humor. Exaggerately brag about how irrisistably attractive her hubby/bf is to other girls, but he'd only kneel before her because none is as lovely as her, etc.

	01-02-2005 11:44									#130
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just don't call out for any close blood relatives and you should be fine

	01-02-2005 11:49									#131
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This is why I always hold back when I'm about to say a name while ****ing and double-check that it's the right one before going through with it.

I'd actually be more afraid of calling her by some random girl's name than any of my ex-girlfriends' (who I grew to loathe for the most part).

Not that I'd even be thinking of the girl in question. I'm very bad with names and tend to say the wrong ones in many situations. I'm especially bad with women's names. I probably only have one space in my mind for every woman's name that I know or something...

	01-02-2005 11:54									#132
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quote: Originally posted by MRT144 not really. she wasnt good in bed, didnt even want to have sex, and wasnt half as good looking as dacia

Explain that to her. Are you bad with names in general? That'll make things easier. Next time call out the name of some random really ugly girl you both know. Keep it up with random names every once in a while. Should convince her you're just scatterbrained.

	01-02-2005 12:19									#133
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Thanks KH. That's good advice for me too. I'm terrible with names.

	01-02-2005 12:28									#134
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"Oh MRT you are sick! Fansying that ugly Doria chick! Get away from me!" - dacia

Caution, don't over do it.

	01-02-2005 12:55									#135
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Women shouldn't have names. Men don't care anyway. "Hey you" is good enough for us.

	01-02-2005 12:58									#136
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	01-02-2005 13:05									#137
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Sometimes a grunt will suffice.

Anyway, I'm not a fan of amateur porn or porn in general for that matter, but I'd seriously like to see this video. At least only the bit where MRT drops the wrong name and gets whaled on.

She did smack you one, didn't she?

We need a new TV show: "America's Funniest Home Sex Videos".

	01-02-2005 14:03									#138
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Today we had a rare childfree day so I took Mrs Horse to a ritzy hotel for morning coffee, then we went shopping and she bought some new clothes, then I took her to a nice japanese restaurant for lunch.

I bought her icecreams and stuff along the way, tried really hard to pay attention when she was trying clothes. She was very happy and said it was like being on a date and gave me little hugs and squeezes as we walked along. So I had a nice time too. She started acting like a girl again. There was no videoing involved.

try something like that.

	01-02-2005 15:09									#139
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I guess you'll have to propose now..

	01-02-2005 15:22									#140
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Does she scream, "OH GOD!" or "OH JESUS!"? Tell her, "Now you know what it feels like. How am I supposed to compete with that? Become a Hindu diety, but instead of a gazillion arms have a gazillion wangs?"

	01-02-2005 16:03									#141
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It likely went something like:

Her- "What? What did you just SAY?!?

Him- "Nothing I just sai..."

Her: "BULLSHIT! I just heard you say..."

And so on.

	01-02-2005 16:04									#142
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I hope he got his nut off first because he likely won't be doing that for a while.

	01-02-2005 16:11									#143
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Eh, I'm sure he'll pull through

	01-02-2005 16:33									#144
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yep, the day with my wife went really well - until I called her Sandra,,,,,,,,,

	01-02-2005 20:14									#145
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quote: Never put the woman in the position of power in the relationship, lest you want to watch Hugh Grant movies exclusively for the rest of your life.

Actually, I sorta like some of those Hugh Grant movies...

but, MRT, if my friends and I were there, we'd have to rub this in and be completely unsubtle by pointing at you and saying really, really loudly, "YOU F*CKED UP! YOU F*CKED UP! YOU F*CKED UP!"

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Snowflake's advice seems the most sensible, which is unfortunate; Asher's advice sounds better.

	01-02-2005 20:47									#146
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things are... better. i bought her a hand bound journal and wrote a message in the front of it. We talked and talked and talked it seemed. I explained how the breakup and aftermath were painful, and that it still bothered me...

i also told her about a lot of my stress, etc

	01-02-2005 20:48									#147
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See, this is why it helps not to even remember the names of your "exes."

	01-02-2005 20:50									#148
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quote: Originally posted by MRT144 things are... better. i bought her a hand bound journal and wrote a message in the front of it. We talked and talked and talked it seemed. I explained how the breakup and aftermath were painful, and that it still bothered me... i also told her about a lot of my stress, etc

There are so many better ways to handle this:

Remind her that you can swing both ways -- you have a lot of choices to make, and if she wants some of this (at this point you motion to yourself), she's gonna have to deal with the fact that you've been with other people. Remind her to "GROW UP", and shout it loudly.

Preferably do this in a crowded restaurant.

The trauma of this incident will put the other one out of her mind.

	01-02-2005 21:38									#149
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Just ignore the whole incident, it was just a 'slip of the tongue'. For all you know, she was thinking of someone else at the time. Buy her a gift if you feel guilty but if she's so insecure about your relationship to the point that a gift is required to smooth her ruffled feathers then I think its doomed anyway.

	01-02-2005 21:40									#150
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quote: Originally posted by Alexander's Horse yep, the day with my wife went really well - until I called her Sandra,,,,,,,,,

You have the whole senility argument going for you though.