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DanielXY
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Germany
Dec 2002
time: 05:18
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Well you can of course meet anywhere, but easiest is at a club second easiest is at a bar.
Ppl. are usually the most relaxed and open for new contacts at those places, for example the music makes them happy 
If you are uncomfortable meeting strangers, take the amount of drugs/liquor you need to loosen up, while still being able to hold some conversation... Its important to get in the right mood, if you have it roam the place and look for stand-alones or if there arent any for girl-groups (2. level so to speak, 3. level would be too look for couples who are not couples  )...
Smile at every girl you like, while you slowly walk past, if she smiles back start up the convo right away (it hasnt to be anything specialy orignal, just start with something like "Hi, ; Im Mike, how are you?", go from there and dont forget to look in her eyes instead at her boobs...
This way you can meet a lot of new girls rather quickly. Sure some of these contacts will not last for long, not all will want to meet you again, but some will...
I dunno why so many ppl. seem to meet each other at work, most ppl. I meet at work arent relaxed enough to hold some conversation which would lead to a date... The vibe just isnt right...
A friend of mine told me he had meet his new girl at work... but that isnt quite right. He knew her from work, but he meet her for real at a park. Work just gave him an excuse for starting the convo ("Oh I know you, you are that girl from work right...").
I suspect a lot of those work-meetups go this way (know from work, meet random at some more relaxed place).
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Wernazuma III
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Decolonize!
Aug 2000
time: 06:18
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quote:
Originally posted by Dissident
It almost amazes me anyone ever meets anyone (except in a bar of course). but even in bars, I don't see that many people pick each other up. Or maybe I'm in the wrong bars.  . Usually the bars I go to, people go as a couple. So they aren't there to hook up with someone else. They already met.
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Picking up girls in bars is generally a bad idea for those who feel uncomfortable talking to strangers, it's for the small talk guys. And those would rather go to a dancing place or something. If you go to a beer-bar or a dinner restaurant, don't expect a girl will jump on you.
I figured that for the more shy type, parties of friends are best: You might get to know a nice girl, talk to her, not let anything happen, just show interest and sympathy. When next time meeting her, ask her to go for a coffee and if that is a pleasant experience, tell that explicitly and ask to meet again.
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shawnmmcc
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Dr.Z has a good alternative to work/school, parties, or the bar/dance club scene. Join an organization, political or with similiar interests. Besides political groups, you can join church groups (you'd be surprised about some of those nice church girls), environmental, etc. I met my wife through the Society for Creative Anachronisms, which is a "Middle Ages as it should have been" with a USA spin on it. Not great for historical accuracy, but a great place for meeting members of the fairer sex.
Advantages include a guaranteed commonality of interest, which in turn means you have something to talk about. Occasionally you will get the fanatic/zealous types. Very intense, which can even be better in bed, but avoid them if you want a casual relationship. Relationships with them often end, umm, shall we say spectacularly, even spectacularly and publically  . With that proviso, and all of advice - enjoy. You'll probably meet her when you are least expecting it.
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Nanimo
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Ehmm... I've been lurking for a while now, and so I've decided to make this my debut, and give advice with a female spin on things. 
A lot of it depends on what kind of relationship you want, long term romance? Casual dating? Casual sex?
I have to say that by far the easiest place to pull would be in a club. Don't expect anything more than dirty sex that'll get your rocks off for the night, though. Count yourself lucky if either of you really do call a few days later. I wouldn't recommend this method if you want something more meaningful and romantic, it's unlikely that you'd have all that much in common other than the initial attraction and the lust. Clubs are just no good for conversations.
For the casual dating, longer term romance, I'd also go with meeting them through friends, or in various interest groups. The key issue is that on meeting them, you don't go in with the intent of getting romantically involved. Most girls will be most receptive to men who just want to make friends, people they can get on with, those who make them laugh, so on and so forth.
Although it's important not to let it go too far down the friendship route... you don't want to end up in a steamy clinch with her, only to have her (or you) roll about in laughter because it's just *too weird* 
It's also pretty important to read the signs, if a girl fancies you, she'll make it pretty obvious... you just need to be able to see it. :P If she blatantly doesn't like you, it will also be obvious... in that case, don't even try, it will make her weirded out and dislike you even more... However, if you're on that kind of neutral point, if you become friends, and she gets to see all your good points, you may be able to win her round....
Having said all this, by some crazy coincidence, I too have found my current target of affection online.  I suppose that this has it's benefits in that you get to browse people like a catalogue... and choose to make contact if you like the sound of them... or not, if you don't think they're hot enough. :P However, most important is the fact that you're forced to concentrate on personality, which is what counts in the long run.
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Jon Miller
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not a clue
I think confidence does a lot
men I know who I think are pretty good (like attractive, in shape, interesting, nice), do great if they are self confident
men who seem to be pretty bad (like fat, annoying, unattractive, not all that interesting) but who are confident, do OK (or even sometimes well)
so I think probably the biggest thing is confidence
Jon Miller
(I am not confident)
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