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Provost Harrison
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The farce is strong with this one.
Feb 2000
time: 05:24
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Originally posted by Mercator
 I can't believe I hadn't seen this thread earlier. I've been in a similar position for the last year or two I think, although far milder, by the looks of it.
I've been trying to graduate for months now, but I just can't seem to get into it, and it's really time to make some decisions, but all I do is hang around watching TV and browsing through 'Poly, basically. And I have an extremely irregular sleeping pattern too, not to mention an utter lack of friends (or much social contact whatsoever)...
But I am attending a weekly group for those trying to graduate, and I'm by far the youngest, all the others are in their 8th or later year and should really get done by now, while I'm really not that far behind on schedule.
The only incentive I had earlier was getting to Japan, but that isn't going to happen this year either since I got rejected for the scholarship about 6 moths ago (I'm still following a course in Japanese though, which I enjoy, but as with the rest don't actually do much for, except for going to the weekly lesson).
I really have the idea I know exactly what I'm supposed to be doing to get out of this, but I just can't seem to start. I want to go swimming (at least once a week), and the pool's right across the street so I have no excuses there, I want to get a temp job (me working on my thesis usually ends up being just one or two unproductive days per week, so I could just as well start doing something more to get myself going again, some more social interaction, more work and more exercise should give me better spirit the rest of the time to work on my thesis)...
But that's all talk... whenever I end up having to go do something I escape to PC, TV or a book, or I go grovel in self-pity and decide I'm going to have to do something...
What does your week look like PH? Do you work 5 days a week, 9 to 5? And you say you're regularly visiting friends, do you talk to them about this, or do you just go there to have fun?
If you're planning to go do some sports, maybe we could plan together... Pick a date and time for when to look into the details, get things sorted and start training!
In any case, good luck! You can do it (and I can too), I'm sure of it! Everybody loves you!  |
Hey there Merc, this stuff sounds damn familiar. Although I ran on schedule doing my degree and stuff motivation and willpower were sadly lacking, hence I got the 2:2 when people tell me I was capable of far better. Ah well, that is something I have to live with now.
It is very difficult to overcome the lethargy and lack of motivation. I have found that age has made things better in that regard, I can do a full weeks work - I am quite determined with something. But the whole job thing and woman thing is still really getting to me, although not so much the latter at the moment.
Yeah, I sometimes talk about it with some friends, but only in the right circumstances. I manage to get out and try to have some fun, it is easier said than done, but I am trying to make the effort.
As for sports, well, I have never, ever liked sport and school physical education certainly never helped with this, so the idea of sport brings this horrible feeling in the bottom of my stomach. But I do like swimming, so I use that to my advantage instead. I have made a pact with a mate in Manchester that if I finally get sorted with moving over there and getting a job that we would both go swimming together and thus give each other encouragement. It would be a bit harder to do that online methinks.
But socialising...yes...I can just generally fall back on my personality on this one, but it isn't easy. I certainly can't go up to absolute strangers and start talking, I think it is important to have the system of introduction and make friends through other friends. All my friends seem to be scattered (Manchester, London, Oxford, York, etc, etc, etc...) but strangely next to none where I live which is odd.
I know it is a real b*tch to get motivated, it requires a lot of energy, and is very hard to resolve. Perhaps a good bit of introspection and trying to figure out the root causes of this stuff would be good, counselling perhaps to try and figure out what causes it. As I say, this could be neurochemical, something which you have no control over...
But I am sure you will get it sorted. My motivation at the moment to work is financial. When you have been unemployed for a long time you are glad of the work, and that having nothing to do is a lot worse than having lots to do. And work can be distracting too, you just need to be able to get stuck into it and enjoy it (which can be easier said than done).
University is like that, left to your own devices. I find it hard to function like that, I like to have people around me, not so much keeping tabs on me, but know that I am required to function so they can function so that you cannot slack. It works remarkably effectively for me. When left with a pile of notes and textbooks and 'revise', I just couldn't pluck up the motivation. A lot of that is about circumstance.
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Stickyhands Man
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Have you let Jesus into your heart?
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Dr Strangelove
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Originally posted by Graag
Best of luck with the prozac, I know you wouldn't be taking it unless you needed to, but I do implore you to be careful with it. I've seen people get more ****ed up through use of antidepressents, including prozac. |
I've seen many, many, many more people getting helped by Prozac than you have seen having problems with it.
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statusperfect
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Sweden
May 2002
time: 06:24
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Answer to thread topic: Go back to nature. Gardening, walking in the woods, hunting, whatever. Cities aren't made for people to live in.
Last edited by statusperfect on 08-01-2003 at 05:13
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05-01-2003 08:52
), but lets just see how things progress from here...
Don't forget the suggestions in this thread either...
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