23-08-2004 20:23									#1
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We all know that high schools can be a tuff place to be, depending on which side of the fence your on. So, Were you a nerd, the popular guy, or just a normal kid in a school? Did you get teased or were you a teaser? Were you a bully or were you bullied?
No need to answer if you are shy or affraid to, but atleast, just vote on the poll! If you feel you dont care what people think, then talk about it.

DO you think that rejects/nerds still suffer 10 years later if they were bullied or rejected in high school? I ask this because I saw a report on TV yesterday that says that emotional pain of rejection and such is pin-pointed in the brain at the same place than physical pain. And they said it could leave scars for many many years...

That's why I made the pole.


Spec.

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	23-08-2004 20:27									#2
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I was a normal student who most ppl knew. I took advanced courses and helped out a lot of the jocks. I had a good group of friends who knew how to party, and was generally left alone, even though I had a loud mouth. It was made known that there were plenty of ppl who wanted to kick my arse but didn't out of fear of what my friends would do to them after I got whopping.

	23-08-2004 20:34									#3
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I don't know what I'd classify myself as, so I said normal. I guess I was more a jock than anything, but not so much in the traditional jock sports or mold. I was more of an all-around athlete - played on the tennis, volleyball, basketball and track teams. Most (but certainly not all) of my friends were similar in that regard. I never teased/bullied anyone and never got teased/bullied. Alot of people knew me and none wanted to kick my ass as far as I knew.

	23-08-2004 20:34									#4
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Normal, pro'lly cause drinking brings people together , and weren't bullied or teased, due to my size.

Seriously, though, normal, I think, only I have no idea how I'd fare in N. American schools. They seem ****ing wierd.

	23-08-2004 20:39									#5
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I was a noraml kid too, and I knew everyone. I teased people a lot. No one specific, anyone when the timing was right. I never took clans or hung with specific people, I hung out with anyone. Well, anyone who I could relate to, which is pretty much anyone.


Spec.

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	23-08-2004 20:50									#6
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Some combination of Nerd/Loner/Teaser/Teased

Untill I dropped out, anyways. (which wasn't long)

	23-08-2004 20:58									#7
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What year? And what do you do now?


Spec.

	23-08-2004 21:00									#8
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Nerd/Reject/Bullied or Teased

I barely made it out of school alive, and it still took me another seven years to undo my "training" until I had the guts to stand up for myself.

	23-08-2004 21:00									#9
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quote: Nerd/Reject/Bullied or Teased

That pretty much sums it up. Just change the "or" to an "and." Which is probably the reason I couldn't have cared less that I heard nothing about a 10-yr reunion (I graduated in 1994). There are like 5 people I might have wanted to see & talk to.

-Arrian

	23-08-2004 21:03									#10
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quote: Originally posted by Arrian Which is probably the reason I couldn't have cared less that I heard nothing about a 10-yr reunion (I graduated in 1994). There are like 5 people I might have wanted to see & talk to. -Arrian

It took me a long time to forgive and get over high school. I'm going to try to make it to the 20-year anniversery next year.

	23-08-2004 21:12									#11
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It's not like I really have lasting feelings of angst (with one noteable exception) towards anyone. I just don't care about them. Thus, I have no reason to want to see them.

As for the exception... I normally do not hold grudges. It's really out of character for me. In fact, in the past I've made an effort to at least be civil, but that got me nowhere. It wouldn't matter, really, except that his twin brother is very close friends with my best friend, and he's a good guy I do like to hang out with now and again. I could probably survive being in the same room with the *******, but I'm not sure I could have a civil conversation with him. When somebody who you haven't seen in years, and are being nice to, inquires as to how that "gook chick you were dating" is doing (at the time, I was head-over-heels in love with that girl), that's pretty much the end of the line. Despite the fact that things ended very badly and I have spoken to the girl (totally lost touch) in 6 years, I still get mad just thinking about that incident. And I'm still regretful that I didn't slug him, or at least do something. I was so shocked I just stood there with my mouth open like an idiot.

-Arrian

	23-08-2004 21:12									#12
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I was unclassifiable.

Basically a geek who was into computers, science fiction and RPG, but I also played a lot of sports (could you guess which ones? ), and I was also quite popular.

Took all the advanced courses and more, and built silly projects for science fairs.

	23-08-2004 21:28									#13
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Do you think that rejects/nerds still suffer 10 years later if they were bullied or rejected in high school? I ask this because I saw a report on TV yesterday that says that emotional pain of rejection and such is pin-pointed in the brain at the same place than physical pain. And they said it could leave scars for many many years...

I hope not.

Spec.

	23-08-2004 21:30									#14
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quote: Originally posted by Spec Do you think that rejects/nerds still suffer 10 years later if they were bullied or rejected in high school?

Did you just miss my post? Yes, it take a while to undo the pain and damage caused by years of bullying and social ostracization.

	23-08-2004 21:38									#15
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I never remember when high school was, comparing to danish school system

When I was about 10 years old, I was the one who was teased all the time, but a few years later I learned to ignore it

	23-08-2004 21:59									#16
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Nerd/Reject/left alone. People don't really mess with 6 feet tall, 200 pound nerds.

	23-08-2004 22:06									#17
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quote: Originally posted by Arrian That pretty much sums it up. Just change the "or" to an "and." Which is probably the reason I couldn't have cared less that I heard nothing about a 10-yr reunion (I graduated in 1994). There are like 5 people I might have wanted to see & talk to. -Arrian

The odd (maybe) thing is that even though I don't have any especially bad memories/experiences from high school, I couldn't give a rat's ass about a reunion either. I stay in touch with those that I want to and honestly don't care about the others.

	23-08-2004 22:25									#18
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Some people just need to learn to stop being so self-involved. EVERYONE gets **** in high school. My school's star quarterback (and played on the US team in Europe for rugby he was that good) got made fun of all the time. It was the same way pretty much everyone. You do something stupid, you get made fun of. Most people get called a faggot or some equivilent in high no matter who they are. It's not just you.

	23-08-2004 22:56									#19
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0 popular?

I was left alone, at my own choice.

	23-08-2004 22:59									#20
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quote: Originally posted by Trip 0 popular? I was left alone, at my own choice.

Reporting for duty, sir!

It seemed so immensely important back in the day.

	23-08-2004 23:13									#21
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What would you define as popular? I mean, I knew alot of people and alot of people knew me. I wouldn't say I was a member of the "everyone wants to be friends with these people" group, but then again, I can't recall that such a group even existed at my high school.

	23-08-2004 23:16									#22
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being a nerd was normal at Stuyvesant, so im not quite sure how to answer this.

in JHS i was a nerd and was bullied/teased, though i managed to make enough friends to make it survivable. Stuyvesant was heaven after that.

	23-08-2004 23:17									#23
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quote: Originally posted by Apocalypse Some people just need to learn to stop being so self-involved. EVERYONE gets **** in high school. My school's star quarterback (and played on the US team in Europe for rugby he was that good) got made fun of all the time.

Obviously, some people don't ****ing get it. There is a world of difference for getting made fun of because people are playing around with you as friends (******* friends, but friends), or because you did something stupid, and being made fun of because you exist. It's like saying that people who get tortured should just toughen up cuz everyone get's hit at some point.

	23-08-2004 23:19									#24
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So, 68% of poly are/were nerds.

Who here is surprised?

Spec.

	23-08-2004 23:20									#25
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Because this isn't a Doom forum.

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@ Che


It seems that when people get to college/Cegep all that standing crap is gone.
It also seems that when people discover boose and drugs, the same thing happens.
And it seems that both happen pretty much at the same time.



Spec.

	23-08-2004 23:24									#27
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quote: Originally posted by Spec What year? And what do you do now? Spec.

Ninth grade, and I'm not doing anything now. Not anything that I get paid to do, anyways. I do lots of volunteer work though.

	23-08-2004 23:24									#28
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I'm surprised it's that low.

And I agree with Che - there's friendly razzing and then there is real bullying.

There was a guy in HS who used to occasionally punch me. For no reason at all. Some days, that was his "hello." I'd walk by in the hallway and BLAM, get nailed in the shoulder and knocked across the hallway (he was big, I was quite little). Other days, he was nice. Strange guy.

Anyway, that's not even the half of it. It most certainly did NOT happen to everybody. It happened to small nerdy types (combo of weak and smart = easy target).

-Arrian

	23-08-2004 23:31									#29
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quote: Originally posted by Arrian It happened to small nerdy types (combo of weak and smart = easy target).

That's what's weird. I would think, today, that small and dumb would be an easier target...

Hmmm....


Spec.

	23-08-2004 23:33									#30
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quote: Originally posted by Spec It seems that when people get to college/Cegep all that standing crap is gone. It also seems that when people discover boose and drugs, the same thing happens. And it seems that both happen pretty much at the same time.

I almost didn't go to college, I hated school so much. I'm glad I went, it changed my world. It took me a while though, to sort out what had happened with me. I still take friendly razzing, but I'm much quicker to define a line that I won't allow to be crossed. Bunnygrrl's a large part of the reason, cuz since being verbally abused seemed normal to me. She wouldn't let me take it though, and now I don't.

I wonder if the torture made me depressed or the depression kept me from responding to the torture. Probably a combination of both. I know when I moved to Illinois, where the kids were much crueler, my grades plumetted, I had few friends, and I started the depression that has plagued me for the last 25 years.