02-06-2005 04:28									#271
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quote: Originally posted by Japher Maybe if you faked an American accent... or an asian accent!

Rich should stick to his British accent:



Freakishly I received the dilbert comic independent of seeing Japhers above post.

	02-06-2005 04:33									#272
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"I've already mentioned numerous times about the paralysing anxiety."

Hang in there Rich, you're a great guy. I always read your posts because they are so interesting and insightful.

Really I look up to you and wish I were as cool as you. Sounds wierd but it's true. I know I'm kind of a dufus...and that you're not one at all. Here's to you, Rich.

	02-06-2005 05:12									#273
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Oh please...

Well I've been slowly resolving various aspects of my life...my professional one has had somewhat of a renaissance and now have a career that is moving at quite some speed, as well as the staggering increase my income has seen too. But this one is still an enigma to me. I don't generally talk about it nowadays but seeing Diss's plight gets you thinking about it all. I certainly don't get particularly depressed about it like I would have done a few years ago...it's there and I acknowledge it but it certainly doesn't befoul my life, which is pretty good! I know I need to get out more but I am also a busy man too...and certainly get out more than I used to.

But I need to have something that actually works both ways for once. I get women who fancy me, and women I fancy but never the two coalesce which is pretty irritating to say the least...

	02-06-2005 05:17									#274
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Luck of the draw tbh.. I only got my first serious relationship when I was 25. I had my share of flings and stuff before but nothing where I truly sparked. Then I met my current gf and she's probably the one (20months later).

Maybe you should practise on the women that fancy you but you don't really fancy.. at the very least it's a confidence boost.

	02-06-2005 05:19									#275
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There are usually pretty good reasons, unfortunately, why I don't fancy them...

	02-06-2005 05:22									#276
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True.. but as any attached man will tell you. Once you're attached single available women start throwning themselves at you. Then you will have more choice

(and nothing 10 pints won't solve)

	02-06-2005 05:27									#277
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Oh trust me, even rohypnol couldn't solve some of these...if only someone who was remotely attractive was interested I might be willing to give it a go...

	02-06-2005 05:36									#278
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quote: Originally posted by Provost Harrison You do realise how many times I've heard that, and every time I hear it it sounds even more trite and ridiculous than before. It's the ultimate cliche to someone in my position, like, 'you'll meet someone when you least expect it'...bah!

I have to agree with you.

I don't want to be a negative person. But all you have to do is look around you. There are lots of people with no one else. Though most of them are weirdos. . Am I a weirdo? A lot of people say I am. I guess I am. But I'm not nearly as crazy as some people I see. Just the other day there was this woman who was acting real strangely while playing a slot machine. She kept saying she had to go to work, and seemed to be in a real hurry. Maybe she's just an addicted gambler. Women like that don't have husbands or boyfriends. She was a crackpot. The scary thing is, I doubt she would be interested in me. Not that I was interested in her. She was older- maybe late 40's, and as I said- looney.

	02-06-2005 05:38									#279
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quote: Originally posted by Japher or dumb enough to be interested in any man

the question is. where do you find dumb desparate women?

	02-06-2005 05:41									#280
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quote: Originally posted by Provost Harrison I've already mentioned numerous times about the paralysing anxiety. It's not like it is just being 'a bit nervous' about it like other people, this stops me in my tracks. It just makes me feel very self-conscious and just utterly undesirable. In some ways late 20s is just 'barely starting', in this respect, it's a world of difference...

have you tried anti anxiety medications?

I've always wondered about them. But I seriously doubt a pill could cure all the things wrong with me. I don't really have the money anyways. Though if they worked, I'd gladly take them.

	02-06-2005 05:44									#281
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quote: Originally posted by Provost Harrison Oh please... Well I've been slowly resolving various aspects of my life...my professional one has had somewhat of a renaissance and now have a career that is moving at quite some speed, as well as the staggering increase my income has seen too. But this one is still an enigma to me. I don't generally talk about it nowadays but seeing Diss's plight gets you thinking about it all. I certainly don't get particularly depressed about it like I would have done a few years ago...it's there and I acknowledge it but it certainly doesn't befoul my life, which is pretty good! I know I need to get out more but I am also a busy man too...and certainly get out more than I used to. But I need to have something that actually works both ways for once. I get women who fancy me, and women I fancy but never the two coalesce which is pretty irritating to say the least...

I really don't get too depressed about not having a girlfriend. The sex really isn't that important.

It's just the fact that I can't get a girlfriend even if I wanted one. That bothers me for some reason.

I think part of it is soceital pressure about what it is to be a man. Basically men who can't get women are made to feel like less of a man. sometimes I just don't feel like a real man because I can't get any. But for most of my waking hours, not having a girlfriend doesn't bother me. It only bothers me when I'm horny, and sometimes when I'm out in public and I see couples together. All other times I'm fine with it.

	02-06-2005 05:46									#282
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Yeah, that is probably about the extent of it...but I am pretty independent too and sometimes I just think I could not do with the constraint on my life...

	02-06-2005 05:51									#283
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of course I sound like those women on the Ricki Lake show. "I don't need a man!". But it is true, I don't need a woman. But that doesn't change the fact that I would jump at the chance if a girl asked me out. But for the most part, I just try to avoid thinking about it.

They say ignoring the problem doesn't make it go away. But I find dwelling on the problem depresses me. One of these days I may try to do some cognitive therapy for my anxiety, but right now I'm not interested.

	02-06-2005 05:52									#284
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I get the feeling I need something similar...I mean why should I be so terrified of the situation?

	02-06-2005 06:11									#285
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I've heard good things about cognitive therapy. But I think it's similar to quitting smoking. you have to want to make it work.

	02-06-2005 06:33									#286
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"But I need to have something that actually works both ways for once. I get women who fancy me, and women I fancy but never the two coalesce which is pretty irritating to say the least..."

"It's just the fact that I can't get a girlfriend even if I wanted one. That bothers me for some reason."

See, I know I'm getting to be a pain in the ass with this stuff...oh nevermind.

	02-06-2005 06:39									#287
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didn't that cough medicine help?

	02-06-2005 06:42									#288
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quote: Originally posted by Provost Harrison Thankyou Gibsie. I am really quite normal...well as normal as I want to be.

Maybe that's the problem. Perhaps you need to be weird like me. There are too many normal men out there for you to stand out.

	02-06-2005 06:46									#289
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"didn't that cough medicine help? "

Not particularly.

	02-06-2005 06:59									#290
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I hear a picture is worth a thousand words.

http://www.boholsandugo.com/mbscand.php

	02-06-2005 07:10									#291
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hey, I would go to the Phillappines, but my life is kind of tied up at the moment. . Maybe in a few years I'll have the money and time at the same time. It seems like I always have one or the other, but not both.

	02-06-2005 07:39									#292
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Dolores and I come home, go to work and save up, quit our jobs and go back. I've worked my way into our being able to go every year or so, but even if it took several years we would do the same.

If I was single and I knew someone like Dolores was waiting for me...I'd beg or borrow whatever it took to get there. The difference is I know what's waiting for you guys, you don't. It makes me frustrated because I think I'm not good at getting the understanding across. So I get boring for you guys. Plus some here have preconcieved notions that the whole thing is somehow seedy. It's not, it's wonderful. But...this link is what it's really all about...the rest you can find out for yourself...if you do what needs to be done.

http://www.boholsandugo.com/mbscand.php

	02-06-2005 07:40									#293
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Usually, they say "Would you like to come upstairs?"

	02-06-2005 10:31									#294
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quote: Oh trust me, even rohypnol couldn't solve some of these...if only someone who was remotely attractive was interested I might be willing to give it a go...

Beggars can't be choosers.

	02-06-2005 10:36									#295
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Can choosers be beggars?

	02-06-2005 10:39									#296
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Not at the same time.

	02-06-2005 10:45									#297
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quote: Beggars can't be choosers.

That's really classy, DT. Shiet, I think he's a smart enough guy to know that if he wants different results, he must change the variables.

	02-06-2005 10:50									#298
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quote: Shiet, I think he's a smart enough guy to know that if he wants different results, he must change the variables.

You'd think so, but plenty of guys can't.

	02-06-2005 10:54									#299
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quote: Originally posted by Urban Ranger Maybe that's the problem. Perhaps you need to be weird like me. There are too many normal men out there for you to stand out.

I've nicknamed a few students UR.

	02-06-2005 10:57									#300
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They must be your best students.