25-07-2002 09:12									#1
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Have a friend that recently tells me he's been sleeping with 2 women. One is his girlfriend. The other, is his long time X-nieghbor girl he knew since he was a kid. Well the girlfriend found out about it. He was able to bullshit his way out of it. Explaining "we are just really great friends. It happens everytime we see each other every couple of years"


I think there is a word for this. But it escapes my mind at the moment. Is it right? Would the men of apolyton except there girlfriends or wives telling them it was ok and that they were just friends?

Oh gay acser's. Feel free to sound off. Your insight and opinion is just as valuable on this subject.

Personally. I can say ive got no childhood girlfriends I knew that I did. There is one girl I used to date and everytime we would see each other we'de go at it.

	25-07-2002 09:16									#2
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I hate the concept of this "just friends" but we sleep together bull!! In my opinion, you are either interested in somebody or you aren't... If you're attracted to the person and are acting on that attraction with the person you are NOT just friends.

	25-07-2002 09:16									#3
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Hmmm, I'm one of these friends. The boyfriend wasn't too pleased. I easily talked my way out of it though.

	25-07-2002 09:16									#4
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My values tell me that it is wrong.

While I enjoy casual sex with no commitments, when I am ready to seriously date someone, I expect it to be a monogamous relationship.

	25-07-2002 09:18									#5
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quote: Originally posted by Dom Pedro II I hate the concept of this "just friends" but we sleep together bull!! In my opinion, you are either interested in somebody or you aren't... If you're attracted to the person and are acting on that attraction with the person you are NOT just friends.

I was interested before we had sex. Then it was just something to do to have fun and feel normal.

	25-07-2002 09:20									#6
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I disagree with it

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	25-07-2002 09:21									#7
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Ya but here is a guy (according to what he said). He knew her since she was 5. At age 13 they slept together. Then he moved here to Racine. 20 miles from where she lives. He occassionally went down to talk and visit her. And several other times he sleep's with her. like its a sign of an unbreakable friendship or somthing. And he continues to do it occasionally.

Damn whats that word for this? It starts with a P I think. I hate brainlock.

	25-07-2002 09:24									#8
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Depends on if you want your friendship to be threatened or if you want your relationship to end. I've had a "friend" off and on for 12 years but the thing about it is we are never "friendly" while either of us is in a realtionship. If you are in a relationship why blow it over a friendship fling.

	25-07-2002 09:32									#9
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I disagree with it as well.

	25-07-2002 09:35									#10
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Man, if you want advice, just ask Uncle Lung!

He's wanting to have his cake and screw it too Unless he's in a swinging relationship, it's deceit. Of course it's wrong! Are you as dumb as i've always imagined?

Uncle Lung's advice is: if he's your friend - tell him so. If he's just your drinking buddy - mind your own business. If in doubt, forget about it and get maggoted! (er, drunk)

	25-07-2002 09:39									#11
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Im not telling him anything lung. And yes he works with me and told me all this the other night over a glass of brew.

	25-07-2002 09:41									#12
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It depends. As Uncle Lung said if the relation is understood to be "open," I suppose then it's just a matter of consent.

Otherwise, the guy is simply a cheater.

	25-07-2002 10:13									#13
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Infidelity is unacceptable in any way shape or form

	25-07-2002 10:16									#14
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If the girlfriend was under the impression before he slept with the other girl that it was "open," that's one thing.

But if not, then your friend acted like a complete bastard. If his girlfriend has an ounce of self-respect, she will kick is sorry ass to the curb post haste. He betrayed her, and if she accepts that, she's asking for a world of bad times ahead.

If I were you, fg (not saying you should do this, just saying it's what I would do), I would ream him out over this and tell him he'd better shape up or he can not consider me his friend any longer.

	25-07-2002 10:18									#15
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Amen to that, Boris.

	25-07-2002 10:45									#16
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quote: Originally posted by Boris Godunov If I were you, fg (not saying you should do this, just saying it's what I would do), I would ream him out over this and tell him he'd better shape up or he can not consider me his friend any longer.

You would ream him?!! He might vehemently object! Especially if he's rooting two girls

	25-07-2002 10:46									#17
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quote: Originally posted by faded glory Im not telling him anything lung. And yes he works with me and told me all this the other night over a glass of brew.

One question - did he tell you, or brag to you? I bet the latter!

	25-07-2002 10:56									#18
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I said "ream," not "rim."

	25-07-2002 11:04									#19
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There are two different issues here. The first is infidelity in a comitted relationship if the other party expects fidelitythe other party is. Either be in a relationship or not but don't try to hide stuff. If its an " open " relationship then pretty much anything is fair game.

The second idea is the concept of a "f**k buddy"-- an old friend that you sleep with sometimes but no one thinks there is a long term relationship in the offing-- Again, I see nothing wrong with this if there is no deceit or anything-- In the past I had one . . . we got together sometimes when we both happened to be single

	25-07-2002 11:08									#20
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I will echo: As long as the relationship is known to be open, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Otherwise he's a horrible person. Doesn't sound like it's open though considering the fact that he had to "play it off" to his girlfriend.

But my present girlfriend (who I've been with for eight months now) has been with other men and women during the course of our relationship and I really have no problem with it just as long as she is honest with me.

I would have been with others if I could get others. But that's another story.

	25-07-2002 11:26									#21
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What a nightmare!!!
Cheating scum!!!
Shame on you bastard!!!


Shame on me too, but I see nothing wrong in his actions.
They know each other since childhood and for sure this girl knows him very well and didn't have any illusions about him. And I no wonder if she knew about his second girlfreind. So, I don't see how he betrayed her, they just have sex as they have it many times before. As for his second girlfreind, what all of you are saints here? What those of you who are married, never slept with other women after you was already married?

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	25-07-2002 11:31									#22
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as long as both partners are willing and understand the meaning or lack there of of the deed, and as long as they are not in committed relationships, i see no problem with it. However, it's usually not this simple.

	25-07-2002 11:40									#23
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Well, there's nothing I can say that hasn't been said, except for "pantaloons."

	25-07-2002 17:36									#24
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The whole thread and no one answered the vocabulary question...

The word you're looking for is "philanderer".

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	25-07-2002 18:02									#25
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I thought my "bastard" covered it just fine, actually.

	25-07-2002 18:04									#26
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Sounds like a John Bobbit wannabe. (Asking to get his cak chopped off)

	25-07-2002 22:48									#27
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quote: Originally posted by Boris Godunov I thought my "bastard" covered it just fine, actually.

Yeah -- your term is better.

	25-07-2002 22:56									#28
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As long as everyone is consenting, MYOB.

	25-07-2002 23:03									#29
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quote: Originally posted by Serb What those of you who are married, never slept with other women after you was already married?

No. Is this so strange?

You have a strange concept of morality.

	25-07-2002 23:06									#30
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You don't marry someone if you want to be with someone else. Thats retarded logic.