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korn469
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Poetic Justic
Apr 1999
time: 00:28
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GP
i was charged with statutory, attempted statutory, and two lessor charges related to statutory...so super sneak and AH were right
7 weeks before my gf's birthday we decided to sneak out one night and her parents caught us, and although she had on all of her clothes i was like half naked, so it was a pretty bad situation, in fact her mom hit me a bunch of times in the face and busted my lip, it was a pretty crazy night, and although we hadn't done anything yet that night i still looked guilty as hell
anyways it was the prosecutor was the one who brought out in court the issue that in 7 weeks everything would have been legal, so that was cool (though earlier in the process my lawyer told me her mom wanted my blood so they actively pursed it)...i plead guilty to contributing, and hopefully it'll be over soon which would be awsome because there has been a court issued restraining order barring all contact and communication between her and I (for witness tampering reasons I assume)...so hopefully when that goes away we'll get another chance, but we'll just have to see...i love her though and hopefully love can overcome time apart 
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Rogan Josh
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How old do you have to be before it is legal?
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Rogan Josh
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I agree with Pekka - you should have made a formal charge of assault against the mother.
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Pekka
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em seu burro dos pais!
Feb 2002
time: 07:28
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Yeah, I don't know how old your gf is, but do you really want to be with her if she doesn't stand up for you? You can't get along with the family later on, or do you see yourself spending thanksgiving there? How can you forget that.. she's obviously violent person, sure she was 'defending his daughter' but come on.
If you love her, that's cool, but if she loves you, she will stand up for YOU.
It takes two to tango, so if the parents can't see that.. if she wasn't objecting you and was in it as much as you, then why did they want your blood? Did your gf plead her parents and say that she was as guilty as you? Or did she try to save her own butt? Either way, I'd make her state her position with this and then stick with it even if the parents pressures her.
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korn469
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Poetic Justic
Apr 1999
time: 00:28
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i'm 25, and i'll be 26 in a few weeks, and she's 17, so there is a fairly significant age difference, but we had a connection from the moment we first met. it's hard to describe, just except that i have never felt that way around any one else. i personally believe in soulmates, and i think she is mine, but for those that don't believe in soulmates, then we are just completely compatable people. also i'm not your typical 25 year old, i'm sorta behind on the curve and she's ahead, but basically we feel like peers and best friends.
while i don't think they should completely repeal the statutory rape laws, they certainly need reform. if everybody involved could have taken a common sense pill for like 5 minutes that would have been about how long it would have taken to work things out. instead we went through this process, and although i truly think it was unneeded, I have became a better person since this happened.
The reason I didn't press charges against the mother is because of my lawyer's advice. He said basically in that situation it was the parent's perogative, and that there isn't a jury in the nation that would convict on that. Plus he said it would make the entire thing worse, and I agreed. The fact is my g/f and I messed up. I knew some of her cousins and she knew some of mine and we were friends for a year, then we started dating, and we dated for like four months. Her parents gave us mixed signals during that time, and part of me knew they weren't happy about it, but another part of me thought it was ok. She lived like an hour away from me, but she was only like 15 minutes or so from my grandparents house. So when I'd goto visit them I'd go by and see her as well. Where we messed us is with her dad. We should have had a long talk with him and got him completely on our side, and although her mom was pretty much against it, it would have been ok. Instead we thought we'd be slick and sneak out, but it back fired. Though like 5 minutes before her parents showed up, I told her (and completely meant it) that I didn't think I could be any happier than at that moment. Until friday that was basically true. After it happened, instead of taking me to the police station her parents let me go, and I thought it was over. I went to work then when I got home, I had a message telling me we really needed to talk because her parents had went to the police. I was freaking out. She called me the next day, and had told me that originally the cops had charged me with kidnapping, forcible rape, etc. Just everything they could think of, and because she was so adamant they knocked it down to a single charge of statutory. It wasn't till feb that the grand jury added all of this onto it. We appologized to each other that night, and told each other that we didn't want to ruin each others' lives, but that we wouldn't give up. She said she didn't know what would happen, that maybe they'd drop it and just take out a restraining order. Instead, three weeks later I was at work (i worked at walmart at the time, and walmart is all about family values, so they let me resign and get the hell out of their lol) and right as i was getting ready to leave for college the police showed up and arrested me. I had actually called in sick one day, and while I didn't know it the police were waiting on me that day. A couple of weeks after I was arrested she got in touch with me, and told me she still loved me and not to give up. Like when we thought they had dropped charges we talked again and were happy that it was almost over then, but then they indicted me and all of this happened, and at court when I plead not guilty they reaffirmed that the restraining order was in effect, and my lawyer told me in no uncertain terms not to have any communication with her. So it's been a while, but it's about over and I have a good feeling about it all. One thing this taught me though is that freedom is invaluable! 
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